Lostn51

Truth be known its jealousy, I know here in the states that if a woman is a housewife the others are always going "oh you so lucky to have someone to take care of you" kinda thing. While the kids are at school they do the "ladies who lunch thing" and go on shopping expeditions. Even if I am a guy I know this to be true because my wife is a housewife and I see this first hand.

Before I quit the corporate world and semi retired she always took care of the house and kids while I was at work. But if you think about it if she was paid to do the jobs that she was doing she would be paid more than I was making.

Now when it comes to the household duties since I work from my house we split the chores down the middle, to me its only fair. And now we have time to be able to do the things we have always wanted to do and I have time to spend with my family.

Billy

butterflywing

interestingly, it's only in recent history that women have been able to afford to stay home with their kids. before that, only wealthy ladies could. traditionally, women had some kind of out-of-home work, even if it was menial by today's standards. women started staying home after WW2 because there weren't enough jobs to go around and men thought that men should have them, of course. but some women refused to give up that second income. this was made possible because grandparents were there to take care of the babies. when families moved away and left the old folks behind, everything changed. free babysitting wasn't there. but because families had moved, they now needed that extra income. then what began to happen was a cycle of rising prices and lowering (proportionately) of wages. we all feel that. that was because manufactures began to realize that there was more money to be had because there were now 2 incomes. so then 2 incomes were needed for almost everyone. so prices started rising, and so on. now, if there isn't some kind of 2nd income, it's tough. the market is geared toward that 2nd income. in the cities prices are absurd, even on rents and in the country, wages aren't as good. who can win? daycare.

kd124

This just reminded me about family and community gatherings which included potluck meals when I was a kid. The men always got their food first, then the kids and then the women. I for one am glad that one ended.

tlrnhi

It's funny....when we have company over and I do the "buffet style" fixing plates, I always let the men go first...
Don't know why......

tlrnhi

I think it's just to get the men out of the way and seated. That way, we women can enjoy our meal without having them say...can you get me this, can you get me that? They'll already have it. lol

But, then again...I will always let company go ahead of me. Then I let the family go, then I go last. Have always just done that.

butterflywing

that's like the kitchen thing. i don't want anyone to be there when i prepare or clean up. they're just in the way, especially the men. my husband always decides to empty the dishwasher when i'm about to sit down for a cup of coffee. good-bye peace and quiet!

k3n

Yup, me too! But Hans has a real thing about everyone waiting until I'm sat down with myself served before they all start eating. Otherwise, they're all ready for seconds before I've had my firsts!

I always remember my Granny at family dinners, she never sat still, always perched on the edge of her chair ready to leap up if anyone wanted something. I really wish I'd MADE her sit in the comfiest chair at the head of the table and be waited on. But I guess she wouldn't have been comfortable with that. And we always seemed to be a chair short, so it was she who perched on the bathroom stool at the corner of the table. :shock: :D

Boston1954

I got married in 1995 and I would not even ALLOW the word obey in my ceremony!!!!!!

pittsburgpam

OMG... I can't breathe!! lol lol lol lol

pittsburgpam

I don't have a husband but if some wonderful man will keep me in style (and fabric), I will happily stay home and cook and sew, make noises in bed, and not bother him. :twisted: