BellaBoo

If she didn't jump for joy at the very thought of marrying this person then I say don't. If she needs security and companionship then I say yes.

Dragonomine

Nothing wrong with that! If I would ever find myself single again I'd never get married a 2nd time. I've already had the kids and I'm a big girl who can take care of myself. It's like a new baby. You hold it, love it, play with it, but are relieved to give it back to it's mother when you're done. :lol:

kluedesigns

i'm very happy with my marriage of 18 years but if something happened i highly doubt i would ever get married again or even live with someone.

more than likely if he wanted to take it to the next level - i might consider letting him buy the house next door but thats about as close to living together as it would get.

Shemjo

I married young and left after 10 years, 35 years ago. No children. Not interested in having anyone else in MY space at this stage of my life! My critters give me plenty of attention, and I don't ever want to have to ask permission to spent money on whatever.
Guess I just haven't met anyone who geve me cause to shange my mind!
But I am a female, and I CAN change it if the occasion were to arise. :lol:

quiltnut4ever

After 23 yrs of marriage I was divorced in jan. of this year. I myself don't want to remarry again because I do not ever want to go through the hurt and emotions this has brought me. If I were ever to meet someone it would be like this (in ghetto terms): HE IN HIS CRIB AND ME IN MINE! Somehow that works better than being in each other's space. Besides I'm not giving up my sewing room :lol: :lol: :lol: Do what makes you happy not what everyone thinks u SHOULD do. :)

Harmony

I'm going on 34 years of marriage. We have 2 grown daughters and I still adore him, but if something happened to him I doubt if I'd ever get married again. It would be nice to have only myself to take care of (and clean up after!) The difference between now and when you were 20 is that now you know you can take care of yourself, and frankly, your relationship is probably better with a little space between you. Contrary to the opinion of many 20-year-olds, marriage is definitely NOT like one big long date!

kacie

I'm happy in my 35-year marriage, but if I were to find myself alone, alone is how I'd live out my remaining years. Most of my older friends who re-married wound up having to take care of the spouse instead of enjoying life. I also don't intend to have to worry about my kids and grandkids maybe not getting all my estate as intended, and we found with a great-aunt who re-married at 74 that pre-nups aren't entirely effective.

A companion would be nice, but so is solitude by choice, freedom from legal hassles, and financial independence. Even a happy marriage takes a lot of energy, and I just wouldn't want to spend that much again. Too much to do for myself, friends and family without being weighted down!

patricej

i think the question answers itself. :wink:

you won't be doing either him or yourself any favors if you talk yourself into it and drag yourself down the aisle.

if your gut reaction to the imagined proposal sounds anything like "i'm not sure", then the answer must be "no". ok. add: "i adore you. it tickles me pink that you feel that way. but ..."

bearisgray

Like many others have said,

If you have doubts, then DON'T.

Ninnie

You should always listen to your gut! If it says RUN then run.