jeanharville

I'm sorry for your pain too. I hope it was a memory problem that caused her to do that. But as so many others have confessed, you're not alone. We can identify with what you're going through.

luvstoquilt

Thanks to all of you that understood. My sister is suffering still but I think I have gotten past my mother's latest "gotcha". She has excused herself from any blame and it has always worked for her. I am sad we could never have the relationship I would have wanted but she is not able to provide the care of other and I have to just understand that. I was very fortunate to have a grandmother that was loving, stern, expected the best from me and was always there. She guided me through my childhood and young adulthood..even though she is gone now I still listen to her advice. She showed me how to create a loving home. She was/is my mentor and how lucky I am to have had her. She knew my pain and she told me to know God would not make my burdens heavier than I could carry. God is good! I have nothing to complain about. I need to remember to count my blessings of which I have many. Please excuse my lapse and again I thank you for caring.

jeanharville

luvstoquilt, I glad your grandmother was/is by your side. Many of us have mothers that couldn't or wouldn't nurture. It is a love we seek all our lives. But you seem to have a good perspective even through your hurt. Your pain is in my heart and I think of you.
jean

ediedarlene

[quote=QuiltE]Yes, I remember Laugh-In, though I don't remember this.
Perhaps it makes sense to those who do, but out of context, it does not make sense at all IMHO.



Rosanne Rosanna Dana was the character that actress Gilda Radner brought to life on the First Saturday Night Live shows. Along with John Belushi, Dan Ackroyd, Bill Murray, Chevy Chase.... Great show, none have equaled that first crew in my opinion.

Rita's mom

My MIL is cold and mean just like that. Every holiday it is a challenge to buy her anything. She always finds something mean to say about her gift. If you get her a sweater she says it pulls on her, if you get her crystal or any kind of figurine it is just another thing to dust. Her and her husband like to gamble so when they built fancy casinos here in Colorado I thought giving them a gift certificate to stay in one of the hotels up there was a winning idea. She told us she wasn't going to stay up there, the damn thing might burn down. I lost my own mother when I was only 21 so I can really relate to the hurt you feel. (((HUGS)))
Maybe you and your sister should get together and plan a special weekend hiding out, eating all your favorite treats, laughing, and making two quilts full of wonderful memories. One for each of you, made by both of your hands, that you both can treasure for yourselves. Your own private quilt retreat!

Naturalmama

I was actually hoping this... *hugs*

luvstoquilt

Not so much...this is just the latest of so many instances & I thought I was past letting her hurt me. I was so proud of myself. This one was a shock for sure!