Confused Giver Seeks Opinions
#11
Originally Posted by lalaland
In my family my mother was notorious for giving us things, then asking for them back, it got to be a family joke between my brother and I and probably why we both feel - if you give a gift, it now belongs to the recipient and whatever happens from there - you are out of the loop. Just let it go.
If you're not happy with the outcome, you'll know what not to give in the future.
If you're not happy with the outcome, you'll know what not to give in the future.
#12
Originally Posted by leatheflea
If the phone is not activated, i dont understand why they took it.
#15
I am a Mother of a 5 year old and an 8 year old and I am so glad to read that you agree that 7 is just way too young for a phone. I probably wouldn't have asked for it back either. It sounds like you are disappointed that it wasn't used for it's intended purpose, and maybe even feel a little cheated since the child's Father is using it...however...just coming from the standpoint of a Mother who has children with very generous Uncles...I would always ask before giving a gift of this nature. That way you can be sure if the parents will find it appropriate, and if they tell you before you have given it, the child won't be upset and you won't be out an expensive gift. Used or not.
I can tell your intentions are good here, but just as a Mother I think asking ahead will save you grief and I believe she will really appreciate that you are giving her the choice as a parent to kindly decline. Know what I mean? I think asking for it back might just create unnecessary drama...I would let it go and just tread carefully in the future. :)
I can tell your intentions are good here, but just as a Mother I think asking ahead will save you grief and I believe she will really appreciate that you are giving her the choice as a parent to kindly decline. Know what I mean? I think asking for it back might just create unnecessary drama...I would let it go and just tread carefully in the future. :)
#16
Once you give something its gone. Like money, if you lend it do it not expecting anything back, if you get anything back thats a bonus. Next time just give gifts appropiate to the ability of the child. Its safer that way
#18
Okay, Grandma here. That is one of the things my 8 year old Granddaughter asked for for XMas. The other was American Girl doll. Yes, I think the I touch isd way out of the "needs" of a child that age, but after discussing it woith my niece who has two grands that age, and a second niece who has two girls that age, and a SIL who has two great Grands that age, it seems that having an I touch is quite the rage right now. I bought the doll, her daddy bought the I touch. She is very careful with it, andf mostly gets to use it in the car or in the house,she doesn"t have it with her all the time. As to asking for your I Phone back, yes I would. You can say you didnt think about it being used for a matter other than games, since that is what he used it for while at your house. And say I'd like it back so that when he comes to see me, he can have it there to play with, and that you will take the responsibility for its use when he is there. My son bought his 4&7 year old( last year) each a pre-paid phone so that they could use it to call him from their room if they needed to talk( divorced , new step, different rules etc.) The phone was taken away the first time she called her daddy, jusdt to talk!! All conversations must be in the same room, so they can hear everything the kids say. That isn"t right!! So, whatever toys or gifts that come from this side of the family, stay at daddy's house, and believe it or not, that is the way the kids want it to be.
#19
We are going to try and remove the sim card to see if that it will deactivate any and all phone capabilities. If it does not work, we will replace the iPhone, that does not have a cell plan attached to it, with an iPod. And then sell the phone.
Thanks for all your advice and opinions.
Thanks for all your advice and opinions.
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