Do you get "volunteered" to do things for other people?
#52
Originally Posted by Connie in CO
Once a month we go to Denver to cash my brother in laws SS check.We write out 3 checks rent,heat,insurance then drive back home 3 hours away.
#54
Originally Posted by AngieS
Usually my DH is the one volunteering me! UGH! I hate it!
:evil:
:evil:
So anyway, I take it as DH just showing off a little. Kinda like that.
#55
Originally Posted by Glenda m
Originally Posted by AngieS
Usually my DH is the one volunteering me! UGH! I hate it!
:evil:
:evil:
So anyway, I take it as DH just showing off a little. Kinda like that.
#56
Super Member
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Brisbane, Aust
Posts: 1,498
I know the feeling well - at the moment I have to finish a quilt for new grandson (very important), take up the hems on three dresses for a friend, make a cushion cover for daughter, put a new backing on a quilt for another friend & make 2 cushion covers for neighbours kids, just as well I don't work but I just can't seem to say no, maybe one day I will learn, after all it is a very small word LOL
#58
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Saskatchewan, Canada
Posts: 748
my answer to the many demands I get is wow I am really busy at the moment but give me a day or two and I will get back to you...Works every time ..Gives me time to evalute my time and them time to find someone else.
#59
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Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Ontario, Canada
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I've been thinking about this since we started this thread.
I am very generous with my time, as I know volunteerism is vital to a healthy society. However, I also know the difference between volunteering and being voluntold!
When I am voluntold ... oh my how I can dig in my heels and say no! Sometimes politely and diplomatically ... other times, well not so!! :lol:
So ask me and give me choices ... don't tell me, if you want compliance!! :)
I am very generous with my time, as I know volunteerism is vital to a healthy society. However, I also know the difference between volunteering and being voluntold!
When I am voluntold ... oh my how I can dig in my heels and say no! Sometimes politely and diplomatically ... other times, well not so!! :lol:
So ask me and give me choices ... don't tell me, if you want compliance!! :)
#60
I have learned that it seems to be more effective to say no, if you don't give a justification for your answer! I think the reason for that is--when you tell them why you're saying no--your reason just isn't as important (to them) as the task they're asking you to do. So now, when there is something I don't want to do, I just say no. Only "no"! Or a softer way to say it is, "Sorry!" A few of my kids used to start out by asking me if I am busy at such and such a time. I've gotten smarter in my old age, and now answer with "Why, what did you have in mind?" before I tell them if I am busy or not. I let them know that it is more effective communication between us, if they will just ask what they want to ask and let me answer without feeling trapped.
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