Do you get "volunteered" to do things for other people?
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Originally Posted by nellebelles
I have learned that it seems to be more effective to say no, if you don't give a justification for your answer! I think the reason for that is--when you tell them why you're saying no--your reason just isn't as important (to them) as the task they're asking you to do. So now, when there is something I don't want to do, I just say no. Only "no"! Or a softer way to say it is, "Sorry!" A few of my kids used to start out by asking me if I am busy at such and such a time. I've gotten smarter in my old age, and now answer with "Why, what did you have in mind?" before I tell them if I am busy or not. I let them know that it is more effective communication between us, if they will just ask what they want to ask and let me answer without feeling trapped.
Too often, we say Sorry ... and that's just opening the door for them to come back and say ohhhhh puhleeeeease!
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