Four words that can change your life.
12-12-2011, 06:14 PM
#22
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Location: Ottawa, Ontario
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I sometimes think that as women and mothers were afraid to say No at times because we're afraid of hurting someone elses feelings regardless of what it does to us. I know I'm guilty of it myself I'm always worried I'll hurt someone's feelings. If DH has a party to go to of one of our closest friends even if I'm exhausted I'll say fine we'll go if nothing else to make an appearance. I'm afraid of hurting his or their feelings by not going, although since my back surgery I'm starting to say No now because I'm the one that suffers for the next 3 days for going out when my body wasn't up to it.
12-13-2011, 05:25 AM
#24
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: ohio
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my former daugher in law was always asking me to do things for her she is the mom to my grand son and she has a new son with her new husband so the children came as aset when i finally told her i cant do it any more she hasnt spoken o me in 2 months i hate it when my husband is right lol thanl goodness my son has shared custody or i would probably never see the little guy thanks for listening
12-13-2011, 07:33 AM
#25
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Location: Central Florida
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12-13-2011, 07:47 AM
#26
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Location: Royse City Texas
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I understand needing to say no...I was raised to be a people pleaser...however, now that I am older...I find it a blessing to help others. Not the "users" out there...those who don't ask often are the ones in need. Balance is the trick for me.
12-13-2011, 11:53 AM
#27
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Location: Seguin and Universal City Tx
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12-13-2011, 03:32 PM
#29
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Grants Pass, OR
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I retired this last June but promised my supervisor that I would sub. Mainly because I really liked her and know the stress she goes through to find a sub. Well, I like being retired and finally learned to say "I don't think so" or just plain "Not this time, thank you for thinking of me." However, I will be subbing for three days this week at less than 1/3 of my salary when I was full time! What was I thinking?????
12-14-2011, 12:00 AM
#30
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Las Vegas
Posts: 365
I always say "I would love to!!!!! However I can't" Then I walk away or change the subject. I told my husband a few years ago, 'I did what everybody else wanted me to do for the first 45 years of my life, I will do what I want to do for the next 45 years.' And I've stuck to it for the most part.
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