Friends and honesty
10-19-2011, 03:32 AM
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Originally Posted by sewwhat85
imho there is a difference in honesty and and being cruel i believe that in a friendship you can be honest in a loving and kind way. If i think what I am going to say may damage the friendship I would not say it or would try to say it in a different way. It all depends on the value of the friendship.It just like your mom used to tell you if you cant say something nice dont say anything at all.
10-19-2011, 03:47 AM
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Originally Posted by Jim's Gem
Originally Posted by sewwhat85
imho there is a difference in honesty and and being cruel i believe that in a friendship you can be honest in a loving and kind way. If i think what I am going to say may damage the friendship I would not say it or would try to say it in a different way. It all depends on the value of the friendship.It just like your mom used to tell you if you cant say something nice dont say anything at all.
10-19-2011, 03:54 AM
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Originally Posted by mamaw
If you lost a friendship because of being honest, would you regret it?
10-19-2011, 04:24 AM
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You can be honest, but not at the risk of hurting a friend. I would never tell a friend that something is bad. I would say it is interesting, which it is, but I would never say it is ugly or doesn't look good. I am not that kind of person. I wouldn't hurt a friend for anything. I don't lie, but I don't say anything that would jeopardize a friendship or hurt the friend. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I am smart enough to realize that something I make or do or say may not be right. I don't need someone else to tell me. Sorry, but I can't go overboard with the truthful thing or honesty thing. I will try to bring out what my friend is thinking and then help her without hurting her. Edie
10-19-2011, 04:35 AM
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I try to be helpful when asked for advice. Often people cannot face the full truth but if you give them a slice of it they can digest it better. What annoys me greatly is a 'yes man' culture. I see no point in saying only what people want to hear. If I am asked for my opinion I will give it, but I will take care how I present it!
10-19-2011, 05:09 AM
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Yes, we need to be honest but not cruel to our friends. Different situations have different solutions. Sometimes a friend asks us a question but they don't really want to know the answer, just want to hear themselves say out loud to someone who understands them what's bothering them. That's the time to listen. I think they are trying to get a clear look at what's bothering them.
When I want to think or work my way through a problem or concern I usually sew up a bunch of quick blocks and go over it in my mind and try to put everything into perspective. Or I come here for advice or to vent.
When I want to think or work my way through a problem or concern I usually sew up a bunch of quick blocks and go over it in my mind and try to put everything into perspective. Or I come here for advice or to vent.
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