Have you ever felt ignored?
#41
Yes, on occasion. And on occasion I read someone else's post that seems very deserving of a response and no one has responded to it.
I figure when that happens, the post either didn't strike a chord with people or else they didn't feel they could reply positively - though then again, people do post their disagreement with something.
I often want to just reply with a thumbs-up to something someone posted, but then I'd be ignoring all the other people's replies. So I rarely do that unless I have something of my own to add.
However, when I start a thread, I try to acknowledge every reply. Then I worry that I'm overdoing it and should back off and let people talk to each other without me commenting on every post.
So it's a fine balance. I think the only time lack of response would bother me is if I think I had a brilliant idea or insight and no one acknowledged it. Most of my ideas/insights aren't of that caliber, though, and most of the time I suspect I'm stating the obvious. Too obvious to comment on.
I figure when that happens, the post either didn't strike a chord with people or else they didn't feel they could reply positively - though then again, people do post their disagreement with something.
I often want to just reply with a thumbs-up to something someone posted, but then I'd be ignoring all the other people's replies. So I rarely do that unless I have something of my own to add.
However, when I start a thread, I try to acknowledge every reply. Then I worry that I'm overdoing it and should back off and let people talk to each other without me commenting on every post.
So it's a fine balance. I think the only time lack of response would bother me is if I think I had a brilliant idea or insight and no one acknowledged it. Most of my ideas/insights aren't of that caliber, though, and most of the time I suspect I'm stating the obvious. Too obvious to comment on.
#42
LNeal,
Yes, I understand and have been there many times.
You made yourself perfectly clear to me so don't kick yourself.
You keep posting and keep being you and please don't let it get you down. We need everyone on here and you are important to us.
Yes, I understand and have been there many times.
You made yourself perfectly clear to me so don't kick yourself.
You keep posting and keep being you and please don't let it get you down. We need everyone on here and you are important to us.
#43
I love this board, I try to read just about everything, staying up late to do so. I haven't been quilting very long and just by reading all this I learn something new everyday. The people on here are wonderful, it seems like all of them are friends. I don't post much and I don't want to post pictures of my quilts because I think mine are awful compared to what I see on here.
Keep it up ladies and gents.
Keep it up ladies and gents.
#44
Originally Posted by quilter2
I love this board, I try to read just about everything, staying up late to do so. I haven't been quilting very long and just by reading all this I learn something new everyday. The people on here are wonderful, it seems like all of them are friends. I don't post much and I don't want to post pictures of my quilts because I think mine are awful compared to what I see on here.
Keep it up ladies and gents.
Keep it up ladies and gents.
#45
Super Member
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: North Carolina - But otherwise, NOTW
Posts: 7,940
Sometimes when it's a post of pictures of quilts or something, and everyone is just saying "nice, beautiful, etc.", then I usually don't post. If someone is asking opinions, suggestions, etc., then I will post if I can put in something that adds to the discussion. If not, then I don't. I don't have hours to spend here, so I don't read everything. If you are around for a while, and post on a lot of the threads, then people start recognizing your name and will answer more often, too. Just keep going...it gets better!!
#46
Super Member
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: British Columbia
Posts: 2,362
And here I figured it's just because I tend to say things that are not along the general line of thinking. :twisted: Even at that, there are lots and lots of times I don't say anything, trying not to offend.
I have noticed that some people keep their threads near the top of recent topics by responding every time someone adds to their post. There seem to be lots more new topics happening since the advent of the PDAs. I think the "old-timers" went there for the most part.
I have noticed that some people keep their threads near the top of recent topics by responding every time someone adds to their post. There seem to be lots more new topics happening since the advent of the PDAs. I think the "old-timers" went there for the most part.
#47
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Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Perth, Western Australia
Posts: 10,357
I think it comes down to time, sheer number of members and the speed of posting and sometimes a difficulty in expressing a view clearly. A message board is very different from communicating with people "live", so it does take a bit of getting used to. We are also a very diverse group, so sometimes there are cultural differences...this all adds up to missing some discussions or losing a thread now and then.
#48
Originally Posted by b.zang
I have noticed that some people keep their threads near the top of recent topics by responding every time someone adds to their post.
#49
Originally Posted by Lisanne
Originally Posted by b.zang
I have noticed that some people keep their threads near the top of recent topics by responding every time someone adds to their post.
#50
Super Member
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: British Columbia
Posts: 2,362
Originally Posted by b.zang
I have noticed that some people keep their threads near the top of recent topics by responding every time someone adds to their post.
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