b.zang

Bev, what tragic news you have. We're all here for you, but do find some real arms to go around you while those hiccuping sobs escape. May your memories be many and bring you joy.

Sharon321

So very sorry. I have know my best friend since we were 13 and last year she was diagnosis with a very aggressive lymphoma. I was so afraid. I am sure you are lost with out her. My heart breaks for you.

Wings

Yes, I lost my best friend ten days ago. We were mates for sixteen years, my friend was my sounding board, loved me unconditionally and was always there for me. My best friend was a bloke. And he could sew! He was my husband's best friend and my husband died fourteen years ago and so he took care of me. He had kidney disease he had gotten from cholestorol tablets, they nearly killed him. He was in for a bad ending, however a heart attack took him suddenly this month, he had been away on holidays and had gotten back, but was having chest pains. He said he was ready to go in my last conversation with him, and the next night he died at home on his own. I am sad, broken hearted and know it will be a long journey out of it.

I trod this path with my husband's death. Dear Bevanger - I am sorry to hear Your news. You cope one day at a time, and it does take time. There is no way round it. You have to go through the steps. Cry when you want to cry, it is important. Tears are nature's way of healing from shock. Maybe write your friend a letter telling her how much you loved her and then put it away in a special place. Sit an ponder and remember the good times.

Be aware that your friend will never really go away, we carry those we lose in our hearts, and that does not fade. The hurt does ease in time and we do step free from it, please be assured that day will come. Then you will just remember the good times. Your friend will have left you enough love to last you a lifetime and it will always be there to draw on. In time the sun does shine again.

Count your blessings for having known her, and how much she meant to you, that is why it hurts so much now.

Take care and remember to be kind to yourself. That part is very important.

We share the path with lots of people in a lifetime. They all leave a mark on our soul. Sometimes our paths go separate ways and we have to say goodbye. Carry her in your heart and do something in her memory sometimes. Plant a tree in your garden in her memory, trees remind us of growth and seasons. Make it one she loved. In time the tree will flower and make you smile remembering her.

It won't always be as it is today. Time will heal. But it does need that word - "time".

Laura1557

So sorry about your loss; I know it's tough. The closest person I've ever lost was my Mom, and that's 14 years ago already.

I have a friend who lost his dear wife seven years ago today, after a four month battle with cancer. I'm sure he and his three kids (late teens/early 20's) are missing her so much right now.

Let yourself grieve and find comfort in the memories.

charwhit

i have not lost my best friend but I just found out 2 wks ago my baby sister(53) has pacreatic cancer with 3-6 months left. Don't know what to do. There will be just 2 of us left. (mom passed at 53, dad passed at 49, and brother passed 43) I'm 57 now

tweetee

So sorry to hear of your loss. I feel for you and send my condolences to you in this difficult time.

stitchinwitch

I am so sorry about your friend - she is in a better place.

Chasing Hawk

He is my best friend.

***hugs* to Bev

granniebj

I lost my last DH, who was my best friend. I know its not the same, but it left a huge void in my life!
I feel for you. Your in my heart and prayers.
Just put yourself out there and collect friends (even the online ones). If you ever want to chat or send emails I would love it....can never have enough friends! Just PM me! I've had huge losses in my life and I know there never are the "right words" to say....I'm a good listener tho!
hugs
Bj

CarrieAnne

So sorry Bev, youre in my Prayers!