KwiltyKahy

Be aware that this could snowball too. She is talking about you to her friends "The Lady that sews for me" may come out of her mouth and they will start sending things too. Good luck.

psychonurse

You are irritated for all the right reasons, the lady is using you.
Try this approach, "Let me check my calendar when it might fit in to my schedule?" Of course that date might be a year from now.

jasming

I was over at a neighbor's house having a chat when another neighbor came in. She was upset because she bought pants that were too long and didn't want to hunt down a seamstress. My neighbor said "Oh Jasmin sews she can do it for you".

My jaw must have hit the floor. I just told her that I quilt and don't know the first thing about hemming pants.

I'm not sure why some people assume that because we can sew we would want to sew and have time to sew for everyone else.

judi wess

I know how you feel. The most amazing thing was when a man at work said to me," I'll let you crochet a table top for me." Right......I was just fooling around with crochet thread,making little butterflies, for fun. Can't believe I came up with this reply, "No, no, no, I don't do this for money". 'Nough said.

Rainy Day

. She was at work and handed him the blanket along with an extra cell phone they gave us since I got mine wet. So he didn't feel right refusing the blanket at the same time they were giving us something.

I will get through it. I am just still kinda irritated! :lol:

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IMHO, she paid you with the cell phone. She is saying thank you and paying you. I am from Australia, and from what I have read on this board, your military service people are not paid very well, and are often in tight financial situations.
I have no idea what a cell phone costs in the USA, but surely they have some value, like your time.
If she is not a sewer, she has no idea what sort of sewing you do, and she may want to learn, but if you are not a willing teacher, point her in the direction of someone who is. or work out a swap that works for you.
For example, I have a friend who wants a quilt. I have explained to her how many hours work there is in the one she wants, and that she will be paying me in housework, child minding and sorting the virus' on my computer. She is happy with that deal.
Cheers
Rainy
Sorry, just read the rest of your posts, and all the things she has asked of you. She sounds like she is not coping well with life, and is looking to learn from you, as you seem to be coping well.

wolflady

I would nicely tell her that I just have so much on my plate, that I can't take on even 1 more little thing, to do.

Selena

Good luck sorting it out. I had a "friend" a few years ago. I inherited her when I married her husband's friend. She made plans for us to sew together. After the second time of me doing all the sewing even though I taught her how to do what she didn't know how to do, I stopped being available. She then just called and told me what she wanted me to make. This also happened with pie crust even though I taught her how to roll it out twice, "OH you can do it so much better." She would call and tell me what day she was making pies and when I was supposed to be there. It grew to decorated cakes and hair cuts. I got rid of my cake decorating supplies so I absolutely couldn't do it anymore. I stopped answering the phone and she came to my work. My point is that some people just don't want to learn to do for themselves and really take advantage. We went to the same church. I stopped going. This harrassement stopped when I moved to another state and didn't tell anyone where I was moving to. Extreme you say, you betcha.

lvaughan

I was going to give the same advice. I have not been asked to make repairs for anyone other than my daughter for the grandchildren so have no problem with that . My sister's answer would be to offer to teach the person how to do the repair for themselves. I started quilting after she taught me how to make flying geese and I was bit by the quilting bug. You never know after showing them how to make even small repairs they may get the sewing bug.

charity-crafter

I had a similiar person glom onto me, always wanted me to do something for them on their schedule even after I showed them how multiple times, I even wrote out recipes and step by step directions the second time she asked. But it was never a give/take relationship, it was all take.

I got out of that relationship the same way...stopped going to church to avoid her, then moving out of state.

EC

If you can't offer her the sewing kit, offer to put it in the pile with the rest of your repair work, no guarantees......................................

If it's something she wants, she'll ask for it back.