happymrs

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My own DH is guilty of this & I hate it, am forever telling him how rude it is! Some people just don't get it, I guess!

Deb G

You're coming in loud and clear.
:-) :-)

quilter1943

She is always telling me later that I never told her ,,,,,,,,,. But I did.

Hi Rhonda Have to agree about people not listening. It's a very narcistic society unfortunately. As for your mother, God bless you. DH wanted to move next door to his mother years ago. Glad I finally put my foot down on that one.

Anyway, try getting a dry erase board and if there are important things - "John's dog died 4/4/11" write them down for her. Leave it at your house so she can see it. My mother had dementia and my DH has Alzheimers. Dry erase boards have saved us many an agrument. I also keep a very detailed calendar for him (us) on the fridge. You can print them out at 10,000 calendars. Hope this helps to eliminate some of your frustration. I pray every day for patience too! Jan

Rhonda

Some of Glen's not listening is because he has a brain injury and memory disorder is part of that. So I do put Drs appts on the fridge. If I tell him it is at 1pm he will get it in his head it is 2pm. Many arguments over this. He just did it now. We have an automatic pmt of $225 came out of his acct yesterday and he insists it is $250. No matter what I tell him he always thinks it is differant than what I told him. I always have to prove everything. So annoying! But there could be worse things. When he had the head injury they thought he might be a veg. all his life or he could come out of the coma thinking he was in Viet Nam or he could have been stuck as a little child for the rest of his life. So I remind myself to be grateful I have him and he is "normal" with LOTS of imperfections! * tongue in cheek* LOL He does have an excuse for some of the things he does I find annoying. My mom doesn't have those excuses for not listening!

Janet L52

I love reading what everyone has written because it validates my feelings! What ever happened to real communication? My husband and I were invited to another couples house for dinner and they each took calls while we were seated at the table. Nothing urgent, just chit chat that could have waited. It has happened with guests at our home, too. Cell phones that were answered and endless conversations. I love the board and enjoy reading all the posts! I am so glad that I found so many new friends! Oh yes, one other thing. My husband was always saying that I hadn't told him something important so I solved that problem by emailing him in the other room (we each have our own computers) and giving him the information. No problem now -- it's all there with date and time to show when I told him!

QBeth

Years ago, I pulled a (very nice) co-worker off to the side to discuss this very type of thing, i.e., interrupting someone. They were notorious non-stop talkers, always grabbing the conversation. In the middle of what I was trying to say, they interrupted me. I interrupted back. She says, "but you just interrupted me!" I replied, "yes, I took back the conversation after you interrupted me!"

Sounds somewhat childish now but the look on her face was worth it -- a light bulb went off as if to say, oh!

BrendaY

I remember telling my husband one time long ago that if he would just listen to me for 10 minutes a day, full and undivided attention, that it would be enough for me to go on. He was always looking around the room, checking this, checking that, and never gave me what I needed...a tiny bit of his attention. BUT! Now that he's retired he micro manages me! And about once or twice a year, I tell him to "Stop micro managing me!" And he laughs and tells his friends how funny I am..... Do I sound cranky? Yes, he's a pain in the tushie a lot of the time, but I still love him very much and will miss him when he's not around anymore....

nrt211

I have learned to shut up when it is obvious the person I am talking to is not listening to me anyway. And they usually don't even notice that I shut up. Probably because they weren't listening in the first place!



Wow...I can so relate to this! It sure is a frustration! And I understand what you mean about having the ability to write out your thoughts...and edit if necessary!

You talk, girl! There are so many great listeners here! :D

craftybear

I have read all of your comments,thanks everyone, it is very true, I was talking to someone the other day and happened to me at the store

Marion T

Oh yes, I can relate to this. Doesn't anyone write letters anymore? I can also relate to the vent about nobody listening! Isn't it sad?