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    Old 08-10-2010, 04:18 AM
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    That is what passive aggressive people do, they try to make you look like the bad guy.
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    Old 08-10-2010, 04:35 AM
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    Originally Posted by tooMuchFabric
    Well, we know how MILs can be. And whether it's on purpose or not, that doesn't change the behavior. It's not right of her.
    So, even though I'm a MIL myself, I say just go on and do what you want to do anyway, and keep peace in your heart and head.
    It's the best revenge!!
    I'm a MIL and my DIL is my best friend. We made a promise to each other way before the marriage that we would be honest with each other and try not to hurt each other's feelings. Sad when MIL's can't see things that way. Your MIL probably couldn't find it in her heart to compliment you on your fine work, so a pseudo-insult was the best she could find. Don't lower yourself to her level, keep mum and pray that your situation is only temporary. The day will come when she will see what a wonderful person you really are.
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    Old 08-10-2010, 04:39 AM
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    Is your MIL's name...Just kidding. My MIL never said a kind word to me for years, then she finally realized who takes care of her and isthere for her. She is 85 now. She is so sweet nad rather than complain about me all the time to family, now all she does is brags on me. But I agree with others, those who don't quilt, pout. LOL.
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    Old 08-10-2010, 04:41 AM
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    Originally Posted by MistyMarie
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    Ummm, you are in her home, and sewing is not a silent thing to be doing when you are on a machine. Maybe it was her passive aggressive way of asking you to be quiet while she watches a soap opera?
    Honestly, though... if that was her way of getting her DIL to stop sewing, that was not a nice way to do it. Had she just said, "The sewing machine noise is a bit too much, could you wait to sew until I am not watching TV?" she would not have been offending. The way she went about it, it definately seems that she was deliberately trying to get a rise out of her DIL.
    I would not interfere with her TV watching a bit. They have their own apartment separate from the area where we are. They have a huge basement and they don't have to see us if they don't want. I know is not the noise that bothers her, is the fact that I am busy with my own little thing and not listening to her gossiping about the neighbors, the soap opera or God knows what else. She lives everybody else's life but hers, and as long as she stays away from mine I don't say a thing. Is amazing to even see my kids not paying attention to her.
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    Old 08-10-2010, 04:46 AM
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    Hugs! Hopefully you can find your own place soon!
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    Old 08-10-2010, 04:48 AM
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    It's a real shame when lonely people lash out rather than reach out. Of course that's the real reason they're so lonely...they've pushed everyone away, maybe not even realizing they're doing so by insisting everything be on their terms and trying to run everyone else's lives for them.
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    Old 08-10-2010, 04:50 AM
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    OK, sorry, I have a small home, and if I am sewing everyone can hear it.
    I misunderstood what you were saying, when you said a corner, I pictured my set up on the dining table, which is in the lounge/TV area.
    I can see the TV from the table, and if you are watching TV, you cannot hear it if I am sewing.

    She sounds hard to live with.
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    Old 08-10-2010, 05:43 AM
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    Originally Posted by Mamagus
    Believe me I know how you feel.
    We had "Christmas in August" at our house this weekend and my daughter's bf wanted to see some of my quilts, so I hauled out some tops and some quilts to show him. My S-I-L whose only hobby is chain-smoking watched for awhile and announce quite pompously, "Well isn't that just a waste of time and money!"
    DH bless him, said quite sweetly, "Dear, why don't you and your attitude take your cigarettes outside for a puff." GAWD I love that man!
    boy is he a quick thinker....love it
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    Us MILs tend to put our foot in our mouth a lot. Here's a thought. You're living with them.....maybe she thinks the least you can do is make HER a quilt!!??????
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    Old 08-10-2010, 05:57 AM
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    Originally Posted by LindaR
    Originally Posted by Mamagus
    Believe me I know how you feel.
    We had "Christmas in August" at our house this weekend and my daughter's bf wanted to see some of my quilts, so I hauled out some tops and some quilts to show him. My S-I-L whose only hobby is chain-smoking watched for awhile and announce quite pompously, "Well isn't that just a waste of time and money!"
    DH bless him, said quite sweetly, "Dear, why don't you and your attitude take your cigarettes outside for a puff." GAWD I love that man!
    That didn't type out right.
    I would have been tempted to say, "At least I can see where my money goes. Yours just goes puff up into thin air."
    boy is he a quick thinker....love it
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