My son made it into the ES program :)
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Do you have other children?
How will they feel if they see their brother getting tons of praise for being "smart"?
What if one of your future kids is in special ed?
My oldest daughter was always in the gifted program and won every award, scholarship and job offered. My youngest was in special ed and could not even be mainstreamed (autism). He struggled just to get a high school diploma. We learned early on to praise our kids for being helpful, kind, thoughtful, etc. To much emphasis on "smarts" is not always a good thing.
How will they feel if they see their brother getting tons of praise for being "smart"?
What if one of your future kids is in special ed?
My oldest daughter was always in the gifted program and won every award, scholarship and job offered. My youngest was in special ed and could not even be mainstreamed (autism). He struggled just to get a high school diploma. We learned early on to praise our kids for being helpful, kind, thoughtful, etc. To much emphasis on "smarts" is not always a good thing.
#12
Thank you all for your input! I did put it on FB but only said that he made it into the gifted program and left it like that. You are all correct. We will not make a big issue out of it with him or anyone else. Thank you all for your responses.
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IMHO you did the right thing. My 6 year old grandson probably will never be in the G & T program. He is moderately deaf, has epilepsy, asthma, OCD, about two years behind other kids his age, and just got glasses! BUT...he is mainstreamed, adorable, loving, kind, outgoing, polite, and just about the nicest kid anyone could ask for...he struggles, and we celebrate every milestone...and you're right...we don't make a big issue out of it with him either! Celebrate his milestones!!! Every child deserves to know just how special they are, and how proud we are of them!! ......P.S....congratulations!
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You should be proud of your son! It is wonderful that you and DH listened to him when he said he was bored and followed through with the school system. Hopefully, your son will continue to be challenged by the classes he will have and you will find other outside programs that can enhance his learning and development. I think how you addressed the Facebook issue was good- kept it simple and sweet!
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CAPITAL LETTERS AND EXCLAMATION POINTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!! YOU BETCHA. YOU GAVE BIRTH TO THAT CHILD. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE PROUD AND HE WILL HAVE A GRIN WRAPPED ALL AROUND HIS HEAD. A lot depends also if he can handle it. It is still up to you. Just don't shove it in everyone's face like it is always the topic of conversation to where every other child feels less than. One good post doesn't hurt. It's how it's handled after that. Don't forget to encourage the learning of common sense. One can have a very high IQ and absolutely no common sense. That to me is not so smart. As many sayings go though "If in doubt, don't!"
#20
I know you're proud of your child - we all are. Every child is exceptional in their own way. But my sister in law once said that no one really wants to hear about your child but family. And she's right. If your child was of average ability, would you really care that Johnny down the street was so smart? I doubt it. If your child is just starting off in school, I'd be real careful about going on about his ability, because I guarantee, its going to get old to the other parents real quick. I remember one parent like that - she would tell anyone who would listen how wonderful her son was, but the mom of the child who was valedictorian never said a word - but everyone know anyway who was the smartest. Again, I know you're proud, but as long as your child can do exception things, people will see it and you don't have to brag.
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