Online Dating..Opinions.
03-15-2011, 11:20 AM
#61
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You have seen all of the danger messages and do take them seriously. Just like dating any one, you need to use good sense and lonely or seeking heart is not always sensible.
My experience with online dating is you must kiss a lot of frogs before you find the one that is a prince. Oh, goodness, I do not mean literally kiss them all, yuck! But rather you must respond to many, be honest, even if they are not. And you never know for sure! The more individuals you converse with online, the more you will get a sense of their honesty and integrity. There are many fine people also seeking a special person.
In one of the earlier posts a successful couple had a common interest and that is a good start whether online or local. If they love boating and water is your fear, maybe not a good match.
Finely, give the process time. If you think you found a keeper or one you would consider keeping, take a big breath and keep you head. He may be a prince or he may be rat in frog's clothing.
My experience with online dating is you must kiss a lot of frogs before you find the one that is a prince. Oh, goodness, I do not mean literally kiss them all, yuck! But rather you must respond to many, be honest, even if they are not. And you never know for sure! The more individuals you converse with online, the more you will get a sense of their honesty and integrity. There are many fine people also seeking a special person.
In one of the earlier posts a successful couple had a common interest and that is a good start whether online or local. If they love boating and water is your fear, maybe not a good match.
Finely, give the process time. If you think you found a keeper or one you would consider keeping, take a big breath and keep you head. He may be a prince or he may be rat in frog's clothing.
03-15-2011, 12:31 PM
#64
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I just added something and I think I lost it somewhere. Have you ever asked anyone out? My husband of 27 years turned me down the first time I asked him. ugh.. I don't think I could have taken a second rejection. (He was dating someone at the time) I met him thur Jaycees.
03-15-2011, 01:26 PM
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Our son met and married our DDIL online. They communicated for a year and then met, then dated for a year. Now married with 3 adorable little boys. She is a jewel, and we love her very much. Just be very careful.
03-15-2011, 01:33 PM
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As a widow of 4 years, that has been suggested to me several times. Not quite ready yet, but when and if, then my brother, a licensed PI with a security firm, would check the guy out and do a through job of it.
Think of doing an online check on him, there are many companies online that don't cost that much. You'd be shocked at how much you can find out about anyone at all. One of my friends used that to check out a new date, showed me the print out. I'd be horrified to have that much discovered about ME, but it's clearly possible.
Otherwise, good luck. There ARE nice men out there, finding them is the next thing.
Think of doing an online check on him, there are many companies online that don't cost that much. You'd be shocked at how much you can find out about anyone at all. One of my friends used that to check out a new date, showed me the print out. I'd be horrified to have that much discovered about ME, but it's clearly possible.
Otherwise, good luck. There ARE nice men out there, finding them is the next thing.
03-15-2011, 01:37 PM
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Like one of the folks on this forum said, if your DOG hates him on sight, while liking your other friends, beware of the guy. I was raised on this saying, and once it sure did help me keep safe.
Dogs sense things that we can only guess at.
Dogs sense things that we can only guess at.
03-15-2011, 01:44 PM
#69
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There is a new place online called (I think) Been Certified.com where you can see a brief backgroud of a person. I have not used it, just saw it on TV. You might Google it and see what's it's all about.
03-15-2011, 01:49 PM
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Originally Posted by Vicki W
I met my hubby online and we have now been married 9 years (well in another couple weeks). We have known each other for over ten. I wouldn't have met him if I didn't go online. He lived in the next state and we share the hobby of genealogy. My brother also met his wife online approximately 7 years ago.
Be careful, don't provide your home address or home phone.
Always let someone else know you are meeting someone. Call them before and after the date.
Meet in a neutral place.
Safety first, there are some great people out there but there are also some weirdos. Better safe than sorry.
Don't let anyone talk you into anything you are not comfortable with....
OK....enough from me, I am sure you can tell I am a Mother?
Be careful, don't provide your home address or home phone.
Always let someone else know you are meeting someone. Call them before and after the date.
Meet in a neutral place.
Safety first, there are some great people out there but there are also some weirdos. Better safe than sorry.
Don't let anyone talk you into anything you are not comfortable with....
OK....enough from me, I am sure you can tell I am a Mother?
i hate sounding cynical, and i know there are good people out there.. but with my luck, i meet the guy who would slip me a roofie & etc and so on...
that would be my suggestion if you were my daughter...
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