Boxer mom

I feel you, I am in the same boat with my dogs. I have 2 boxers and I have tried everything and they just refuse to be have and calm down so, they get put in their kennels when company comes over. I tell my company to not feed the frenzy by telling them no and being firm with them and they just keep saying "no it's okay" when it is not. They don't seem to understand that I need their help to stop this kind of behavior and them not being firm with them is not helping me.

I am not sure how you would need to address this. Sorry.

Carol Wilson

Could I please borrow your dogs.

I have a problem with a certain 2 visitors that constantly drop in uninvited who constantly find fault with everything I do including my quilting, saying that it is a total waste of time, always being negative about everything and everybody, unfortunately in Australia we have very strict quarantine laws so it may take some time to get them here, but it sounds like it would well be worth the wait!

:D

pocoellie

It sounds like your friends don't discipline their dogs. Dogs need to be socialized and trained. They don't have to be beaten but they do need discipline just like children.

ssgramma

Just say it!!! Step-kids both thought they should be able to bring dogs to my house. I have cats. Their dogs are NOT welcome. SD showed up once with her dog who spent the weekend confined to backyard or her van. He is a very nice dog but was NOT allowed in my house. She never brought him again! SS got told not to come if he didn't have arrangements for doggie care at home!

I have had cats for a long time. Petsitters and/or friends are there so that I don't have to annoy people with my animals! That is also why we have a camper. Cats can go along but not bother anyone by intruding into their home!!!

Yooper32

Unruly dogs and unruly kids, same difference. I have a hard time with both. My dogs had to behave as did my children but like a lot of things, that seems to have passed into the past. Do I sound like a grouchy ol' lady? Well, I am when I have to put up with any of the above.

Owllady

Dog or any animal ownership comes with responsibility and that is teaching and controlling any and all of them.

Johanna Fritz

" I don't want to be rude but I want to ask them to control their dogs and put them in their pins when we are there."

You wrote your own answer above. Politely ask them to be penned. I don't have a problem with dogs, but my son and husband are allergic to their saliva. I really dislike how many dog owners assume that we love their dogs as much as they do...and that we don't mind being licked, pounced, and slobbered on. I wouldn't allow my toddlers (when they were younger) to jump on people's lap and drool all over them. And they don't even shed!

If they get insulted when you ask, then they are not polite and not a real friend. No real friend would put your polite request behind their dog's "feelings." Good luck.

Johanna Fritz

I love "grouchy old ladies"...they produce well-behaved children. We need more "parents" who actually parent rather then trying to be their kids' "friend." You go girl!

cizzors

I have 3 chihuahuas and a boxer ages 1,2,3 and 9 (boxer is the baby). Normally, it's only my family that comes over and they know what to expect (I'm a bit of a loner). They all are excited to see them and they are allowed to be rowdy for about 2 minutes. Then I start calming them down. If that doesn't work I show them the fly swatter-never fails- no, they aren't ever beaten with the swatter.

Bottom line, I allow them to act like the animals they are for a few minutes and then it's over. And, yes, they are allowed on the furniture-don't like the hair? Don't come over.

catrancher

We have friends like this too. I'm a cat lover, and don't care much for dogs. I don't have an answer except that we invite our friends to our place and avoid going to theirs.