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12-07-2010, 05:33 AM
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My husband and I were married in 1967. The coat style was a suede coat with a mink collar. I asked for one for about 3 or 4 years. When it finally sunk in that I was never going to get one, I quit asking for one (they were going out of style anyway). You guessed it, that was the Christmas I got one (and he wondered why I was not excited about it). DUH! The next Christmas I went shopping for myself, came home and wrapped everything and gave him the receipts. I was so excited about Christmas because I knew what was waiting for me under the tree. He still got me a surprise gift (a gold wedding band which he had hidden on top of the refrigerator in the laundry room). He was never any good at hiding gifts, I use to find receipts laying on the kitchen counter. He was soo much better at gifts when we were dating.
12-07-2010, 07:48 AM
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Originally Posted by clem55
OMG! That sounds so like me!! I use to get nice surprises from hubby for Xmas, he loved buying me pretty clothes and nice jewelry. That was before I got too fat for the really sharp outfits he liked, and before I had more jewelry than I can ( or do) wear. Now he wants me to make a list of what I want, show pictures, tell him where to get it, etc. and he will go buy . The kids do me the same. I KNOW they are trying to please me, but I would much rather have a surprise to open. I guess it is the kid in me, but I like to be surprised once a year. Forty years ago all I really wanted was a new sewing machine that did something more than my FW. I hinted and hinted for that, for many years,told my daughter what kind I would really like to have( so she could tell him if he asked her), and I never did get that as a surprise . For him, it wasn't "fun" to shop for something like that, it would sound so dull when he told the "guys at work" what he was getting me. I finally used my own money and bought myself one! And now I've done the same again. When I was a kid, my sister had a Singer toy sewing machine, and of course I got to play with it as I grew up. Two years ago I saw a replica of that toy at Hancocks, told hubby I really would love to have one ( "WHY?"). Explained my reason for wanting it( sister didn't sew, but wouldn't let me have it). I thought for sure he would buy it, but no, he didn't see the point. Instead I got a diamond pendant and gold earrings that I didn't even want. Yeah, I know, I shouldn't complain about that kind of gift, but for what he spent, I could have had a toy machine and the real thing. I sometimes wonder if they ever really listen to what we say. I'd just like a surprise gift!! I never get surprises anymore. Sure sound like a spoiled kid, but I like to surprise all of them. Of course, they usually take what I buy and return it for something they want, but at least I get the fun of surprising them with something unexpected. Not even doing that this year, so I am in a real bummer mood. WhewA!! Lots of venting there!! Sorry.
12-07-2010, 07:55 AM
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Now that we are old(er) and retired, if DH bought a new vacuum cleaner (or other useful tool) for me (us), I would be pleased. (Assuming, of course, that is was a decent brand and model)
He did surprise me with a TV for my sewing area one year - and that was the year I didn't get anything for him :oops:
It seems that our wants and needs change over the years.
We both come from "peasant stock" - so better jewelry is a seldom purchased item that is a "big deal" to both of us.
He did surprise me with a TV for my sewing area one year - and that was the year I didn't get anything for him :oops:
It seems that our wants and needs change over the years.
We both come from "peasant stock" - so better jewelry is a seldom purchased item that is a "big deal" to both of us.
12-07-2010, 09:10 AM
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One year I went to the local retail store, ok, who am I kidding...Walmart.. and took pictures of things that I would like to have or just wanted. They all were under $10. I put the pics on the bulletin board at home. The idea was..the kids could come over and take the pic and get that gift and no guessing what mom wanted. I guess I didn't explain carefully enough, because one day all the pics were gone!! When Christmas came around, I got everything I had posted. The DH had taken all of the pics and bought everything. Bless his heart!!! He said he thought it was a "HINT." Yea, he's a keeper!! LOL
12-07-2010, 10:27 AM
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thanks for letting me know I am not alone. My DH and kids all get me what they think I want---and more than once I have heard the "you don't need anymore quilting/sewing stuff" but if I dare not get them the movies, or games they want---look out. So I always buy myself a present that is sewing/quilting related and wrap it and put it in my sewing room under my "Elvis" tree. Sometimes it is one larger item, sometimes it is several smaller ones. I get them throughout the year and wrap them, so by the time Christmas comes, I honestly do not remember what is in each pkg.
12-07-2010, 10:36 AM
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My first Christmas with my husband-now ex-the only gift I got was an electric frypan. I almost cried. Used that pan forever, even when it had only 3 legs but guess I never forgave him for that impersonal gift. That was 50 years ago, but it made me try even more to always give a gift that the receiver wanted-not what they needed. Now I would love another frypan but then I wanted something personal.
12-07-2010, 10:50 AM
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Not married any longer, but I put my Ex's hand on the sweater & skirt that I REALLY REALLY wanted. He waited till Christmas Eve, I think, and I got the only one left on the rack with a boo-boo on it and a skirt that did not even match. J J
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