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#71
Interesting reading. Early on in my relationship with my DH it bothered me that he was really bad at choosing gifts for me.
I would still be thrilled if he would one day surprise me with something I would love, but I am no longer expecting that to happen. And I have made peace with it.
But it does bother me when he says that the best gift he could get would be to be excused from buying me anything. I can't help hearing that as him not caring, even though I know he loves me very much and he shows this is very practical ways. He just hates shopping.
We share all our money anyhow so if he is not happy to pick it and I am paying for it in any case, why make him conduct the transaction!
I would still be thrilled if he would one day surprise me with something I would love, but I am no longer expecting that to happen. And I have made peace with it.
But it does bother me when he says that the best gift he could get would be to be excused from buying me anything. I can't help hearing that as him not caring, even though I know he loves me very much and he shows this is very practical ways. He just hates shopping.
We share all our money anyhow so if he is not happy to pick it and I am paying for it in any case, why make him conduct the transaction!
#72
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I always felt "cheated" when my DH sent his secretary out to get my gift. Ha ha on him--he doesn't have a secretary now!! He'll have to go get something himself (prob on Christmas Eve at 9pm) since he's self-employed now. Or maybe I'll get a gift certificate from Amazon since I bought myself a Kindle for my birthday.
#73
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Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Live in Littleton, CO via Rapid City, SD
Posts: 2,187
Two years ago I asked my daughter if she would buy some fabric on line for me, as I don't use credit cards. I was living with her at the time and taking care of my toddler dgs, and told her I would get the cash for it from my purse. She said no, you don't need anymore fabric.
She was to remarry the following June 2009, and it was sailing fabric, that I wanted to make a wedding quilt for her an Josh. As they love to sail.
Guess what, they never got a wedding gift.
Don't ever tell me I don't need anymore fabric!!!!!
She was to remarry the following June 2009, and it was sailing fabric, that I wanted to make a wedding quilt for her an Josh. As they love to sail.
Guess what, they never got a wedding gift.
Don't ever tell me I don't need anymore fabric!!!!!
#74
Originally Posted by noveltyjunkie
Interesting reading. Early on in my relationship with my DH it bothered me that he was really bad at choosing gifts for me.
I would still be thrilled if he would one day surprise me with something I would love, but I am no longer expecting that to happen. And I have made peace with it.
But it does bother me when he says that the best gift he could get would be to be excused from buying me anything. I can't help hearing that as him not caring, even though I know he loves me very much and he shows this is very practical ways. He just hates shopping.
We share all our money anyhow so if he is not happy to pick it and I am paying for it in any case, why make him conduct the transaction!
I would still be thrilled if he would one day surprise me with something I would love, but I am no longer expecting that to happen. And I have made peace with it.
But it does bother me when he says that the best gift he could get would be to be excused from buying me anything. I can't help hearing that as him not caring, even though I know he loves me very much and he shows this is very practical ways. He just hates shopping.
We share all our money anyhow so if he is not happy to pick it and I am paying for it in any case, why make him conduct the transaction!
If he isn't too creative he may need some ideas to start with. And sometimes guys just need things like being surprised explained to them. Hope you have some luck with this.
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