Never died, tinted, or highlighted mine so can't grasp some of this.

My two DS have. My oldest DS still highlights and it looks terrible. We tried to tell her but to no avail. After her breast cancer and the chemo, her hair came in almost black and curly. Neither looked good on her so she started dyeing it.
Other DS quit and he natural brown with grey is very becoming.
Guess it is all in how we look at ourselves.

My hair was nearly white. On top & sides. Underneath in the back it was very dark brown with gray sprinkled in. I got my haircut last Thursday & decided to go short. Right below the ear all & almost up to the neckline. Cut worked super. But....it looked like I had a white bowl on my head with the dark showing underneath it. My fab. hairdresser said "This will just not work!" She looked & had plenty of time so she foiled a dk. brown in the top half of my hair to match & blend with the back. I may regret doing this later, but for now I just love it! I now have salt & pepper looking hair. She said she would have to do the roots about every other haircut. I go 8-10 weeks between cuts. It def took a few yrs off of my face.

Barbara it looks good I do that sort of thing makes me feel unique, my dd says she likes it to.

Yep....love that look Barbara. I haven't dyed my hair since I turned 31....I love the freedom of not having to "touch up" all the time. I also keep it cropped pretty short (my husband cuts it for me)...so these days I save heaps on cuts and "products" and don't even own a hairbrush...more money for fabric!