Either Mom or my name and both are fine by me. One dil introduces me as "Jamie's mom" although I didn't give birth to him. The other introduces me as "Chris's step-mom" and that's okay too. (but both boys call me mom as do dh's children by his second wife.) The grandkids and great grandkids call me Grandma H______. I've never gotten into the name game thing, whatever they want to call me is up to them--as long as it's not disrespectful. I always called my in-laws by their first names. The first ones never accepted me into their family so there wasn't a question of any more familiar terms. My late mil was wonderful but I still called her by her name. I called her mom once and my sisiteril informed me that she was "her" mother not mine. My ssil is a very insecure, possessive woman.

I never had a MIL and as for my FIL he has been gone for so many years now I can't remember what I called him. My husband always called my mom Gram once we had kids. Probably avoided having to call them by a name before that. My DIL (both current and ex) and SIL call us Mr. and/or Mrs. O. Works for us. I've been Mrs. O to so many kids that I have been with in Girl Scouts and as a sponsor with the high school band etc. that it is very comfortable for me. The grandkids all call us grandma/pappy.

When my sister got married, my brother in law was not comfortable calling my folks by their first names so he calls them MIL and FIL (mill and phil)!

My MIL was in her late 30"s when we met, and she told me to call her Dell, so that is what I always called her, FIL was Pop. My first SIL called me Mom from the get-go, but DILs all called me Carol. My children call me Mom, grands called me Mawma and then as they got around age four, they started saying grandma. I would refer to myself both ways to them so the choice was really theirs. I think it is very cute for little ones to call grands by the cutie names, but not when they are older. My children called my mother grandma and hubs mom, grandma Dell. Their friends, for the most part ,called me MOm or Carol. I actually prefer being called by my given name rather than Mrs. ? or Don's wife/ I am not a formal person, I am me, CAROL.

I call mine your mother and your father. Dh just gives me a funny look and says I'm sorry even before he knows what I'm going to say. Our kids refer to them as those ppl but call my parents grandma and papa. We had a good relationship with the in-laws until 2 years ago when we found out they were saying cruel things to our 2 oldest kids when we weren't around. Dh caught his mother and then she denied saying it. Oh well life goes on. Please be kind to your future DIL apparently she loves you if she is calling you Momma before they are married.

Years and Years Ago.....I did say what may I call you to them {MIL & FIL} In reply told it was may choice so {{{not being so shy those who 'know' me here}}} said what about Mamma {followed by first name} etc.

Then found other some of my other SILs were doing the exact same. Great minds think alike.

Years and Years Ago.....I did say what may I call you to them {MIL & FIL} In reply told it was my choice so {{{not being so shy those who 'know' me here}}} said what about Mamma {followed by first name} etc.

Then found other some of my other SILs were doing the exact same. Great minds think alike. :-D

Sadly, time has passed and one is no longer with us on earth and the other is in her own world. :-( I miss our talks and seeing them.

Oh sorry for the double...msg. did not seem like it was posting.

My SIL and DIL call me by my first name and I'm fine with that. Sometimes, they call me Grandma when they are talking to the grandkids.

my children call me Mom-mommy when upset. My SIL and DIL also call me Mom. My Stepson calls me by my first name and so does his fiance. I called my MIL Mom too-kindof funny, cause I almost wrote "I call", but God rest her soul, she died last week. My grandchildren call us Nana and Pop Pop.