Things that "horrified" you as a quiltmaker -
02-26-2022, 08:25 AM
#123
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I was helping clean out a friends mothers house. She had a few quilts rolled up and in bags in the closet. She was saving them for "good". What "good" did she get? Saving it for what?
If you give someone something, it belongs to them. They use it and enjoy it in a way that makes them happy.
If the only memories associated with the quilt are your memories that you made it and how much you spent....it has no importance, except to you. Just because it is important to you, does not make it life changing to someone else.
If it bothers you so much, either ask for it back or just let it go.
Sometimes the stark reality stings, and we hurt when things like this happen, but we have to get past it.
Not every quilt is historic.
If you give someone something, it belongs to them. They use it and enjoy it in a way that makes them happy.
If the only memories associated with the quilt are your memories that you made it and how much you spent....it has no importance, except to you. Just because it is important to you, does not make it life changing to someone else.
If it bothers you so much, either ask for it back or just let it go.
Sometimes the stark reality stings, and we hurt when things like this happen, but we have to get past it.
Not every quilt is historic.
02-26-2022, 11:15 AM
#124
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reading about quilts used as oil-change rags vs. put up in closets and kept for "best" - at least the ones that are preserved may someday be passed on to someone who will love them and use them. The ones that are trashed, will stay trashed.
02-26-2022, 11:56 AM
#125
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I made our granddaughter a baby quilt to give at a baby shower. The new dad has horses so I made the quilt with 9 horse appliqués in the colors of the baby's room.... I watched as my gift bag was handed to her and she pulled the tissue paper away and peered into the bag, not even taking the quilt out.
Anyhow, long story short, I came home one day and noticed that the quilt wasn't on the bed anymore and I asked him where it was. -- He heartlessly told me he didn't want to lay on the muddy ground when he changed the oil in his truck, so he used it and if I wanted it, I could dig it out of the trash heap behind the barn. When I went to get it, I was so heartbroken as apparently he had dumped the entire pan of old oil on it before he rolled the muddy quilt up in a ball and tossed it into the heap.
About "saving for later"... I made my son and DIL a wedding quilt out of beautiful Kaffe Fassett fabrics in blues and greens. Anyone would have loved that quilt. When we visited them at their house later, she had it folded up on a shelf in the guest room closet. Not even on a bed. It took me so long to figure out what that girl liked and didn't like, and I'm still learning. Got to love her tho, for giving me two beautiful grandchildren.
02-26-2022, 02:57 PM
#127
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I was once horrified at what I had done. Too much bleach on a quilt, yep, I now have a solid white quilt. Oops.
As for others, I do get a little horrified when they aren't used. I can't stand the thought of an "heirloom" sitting in the closet not being enjoyed. I would rather them be used than stored.
As for others, I do get a little horrified when they aren't used. I can't stand the thought of an "heirloom" sitting in the closet not being enjoyed. I would rather them be used than stored.
02-26-2022, 03:08 PM
#128
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Yikes, why give them another one even if 20 years later?
03-01-2022, 06:57 AM
#129
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I can't tell you how many quilts I've seen while collecting that were made beautifully and then never used. They were designated "for good", whatever that means. They weren't enjoyed and that's sad to me.
SBG, Maybe your kids are afraid to "hurt" the quilt by using it. Who knows what people think?
I just gifted my SIL a quilt she loves. When I brought Paul home from the hospital I took a picture of him in his chair with that quilt on him. She went wild over it. So right then and there I decided to gift it to her. She told me she'd take good care of it. My reply? "Use it and enjoy it!!!! " Whatever she does though, I don't mind. She loves it and that's all I care about.
SBG, Maybe your kids are afraid to "hurt" the quilt by using it. Who knows what people think?
I just gifted my SIL a quilt she loves. When I brought Paul home from the hospital I took a picture of him in his chair with that quilt on him. She went wild over it. So right then and there I decided to gift it to her. She told me she'd take good care of it. My reply? "Use it and enjoy it!!!! " Whatever she does though, I don't mind. She loves it and that's all I care about.
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03-01-2022, 11:32 PM
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The first time I saw a brightly re-painted vintage Singer I was horrified. Now I'm getting used to seeing them. So many people like them. I still don't think I would ever own one. I love black Singers.
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