Tired of parenthood.
#21
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I love parenthood and being a grandma, but there were times I wondered what they were thinking and will they every outgrow it. As teens I always loved them but sometime disliked their actions. There is a difference.
#22
Sharon B you got it right. I love my baby to bits and have loved every day of being her mother for all 21 years (Wednesday) but there have been times that she has done stupid things and I have wanted to shake her until her head popped off. I have never called her stupid and never will but boy.........Sometimes I could in a heartbeat.
#23
I have three kids and you have to hang in there! It will get better! You have to hang on to the fact that you have taught them the best you can but there comes a time when they have to make their own mistakes.
The good values you taught them are in there some where!! They will remember that when they get a little older!
One of my sons left home a few weeks after getting his first car. He was 16. I could have drug him home but knowing my 7 bil's and how they were as well as my husband at that age I chose to keep the lines of communication open and pray for the best. He had a good home life but he is a strong willed :lol: :lol: person!! He dropped out of school and worked at McDonalds but now he is 32 married to a great lady and has 4 kids 2 and 1/2 grandkids and is a partner with his uncle in their electric business. He works long hours and is a great dad. He cooks and cleans and is remodeling their house right now between jobs and family. He married at 19 and became an instant hands on dad to a 4-6-8 yr olds and is a decent upstanding person.
So this son of mine who used to fight and hang out with people who did drugs came through all of this to be a great caring person and we are really proud of him but...
From the age of 16 to 19 he turned our hair gray and we did a lot of talking to him and a lot of praying!!!!!! Worst period of my life!!
My youngest son who is now 31 is another story! Hard working family man but makes some not so great decisions! Still has me on my knees praying!!
Just keep hanging in there! We have had our share of bad days as a parent and as grandparents!!!!
Hope you see some sunshine soon!
The good values you taught them are in there some where!! They will remember that when they get a little older!
One of my sons left home a few weeks after getting his first car. He was 16. I could have drug him home but knowing my 7 bil's and how they were as well as my husband at that age I chose to keep the lines of communication open and pray for the best. He had a good home life but he is a strong willed :lol: :lol: person!! He dropped out of school and worked at McDonalds but now he is 32 married to a great lady and has 4 kids 2 and 1/2 grandkids and is a partner with his uncle in their electric business. He works long hours and is a great dad. He cooks and cleans and is remodeling their house right now between jobs and family. He married at 19 and became an instant hands on dad to a 4-6-8 yr olds and is a decent upstanding person.
So this son of mine who used to fight and hang out with people who did drugs came through all of this to be a great caring person and we are really proud of him but...
From the age of 16 to 19 he turned our hair gray and we did a lot of talking to him and a lot of praying!!!!!! Worst period of my life!!
My youngest son who is now 31 is another story! Hard working family man but makes some not so great decisions! Still has me on my knees praying!!
Just keep hanging in there! We have had our share of bad days as a parent and as grandparents!!!!
Hope you see some sunshine soon!
#24
You can bring them up right & they still do stupid things. Mine are 31, 27, & 15. Sometimes the 15 year has more since than the other 2. Kids can come law abiding, God fearing people and still turn out to be the worst people in the world. Mine have always been pretty good kids. No drug problems, getting arrested or stuff like that. My 5 grands are all good kids too. Now they do get on my last nerve sometimes but I still love them with all my heart. Hang in there. Just remember somebody else's are always worst than yours.
#26
My son is only 12 YO and up to this point has been pretty low maintenance, but I live in fear of the teen years ahead.
I recently told a new mom that the thing I had learned the most from parenthood was deferred gratification, so anything he does that really seems to grate on my nerves, I am able to say, someday this will end.
I guess what makes it easiest for me is that I can see he is a combo of both of us, so when he acts like his dad, I remember the other half that is like me. The other day my husband said, He may have gotten being smart from me ( I let him think this, ha) but he got being a smart ass from you!
I recently told a new mom that the thing I had learned the most from parenthood was deferred gratification, so anything he does that really seems to grate on my nerves, I am able to say, someday this will end.
I guess what makes it easiest for me is that I can see he is a combo of both of us, so when he acts like his dad, I remember the other half that is like me. The other day my husband said, He may have gotten being smart from me ( I let him think this, ha) but he got being a smart ass from you!
#27
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Originally Posted by barnbum
He says it's more comfortable. :roll:
But--his heart makes up for it. :D
But--his heart makes up for it. :D
K, remind him that with his pants that way a girl could whip him, 'cause he'd either be too busy holding his pants up, or they'd fall down and trip him! LOL. There actually was a scene on "Cops" where a perp who was running from the cops fell down and ended up shucking his pants to try to get away. They caught him in his boxers. Funniest thing on TV!
#28
Originally Posted by barnbum
He says it's more comfortable. :roll:
But--his heart makes up for it. :D
But--his heart makes up for it. :D
Sorry BIG - thread hijack. :oops:
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