campion

do something that makes you so mad!!!

My younger married son has a hectic life with three children,one which is his own and 2 stepchildren.
A wife who is on the lazy side,and 2 dogs (who never get walked),birds in cages,a cat and a parrot in a small house.
He is worn out as he is 12 years older than her,and now she has brought home a puppy.
He hasn't told me yet----my other son told me.
But there is a lot more to my tale of woe----sorry for blurbling need to get things off my chest.

Ramona Byrd

Go on and vent, we've all either seen that or lived your pain. It'll make you feel better. Not much you can do for your son, he's got to live his life as he feels he has to. It will hurt to see him overworked but at some point in his life he'll wake up, look around and see his life as it compares with the life he was raised with.
Just don't say anything at all about it, like most men, he'll plant his feet and stubbornly refuse to do anything at all even if he had been thinking of it~~

campion

Ramona you are so right ---about men and being stubborn,when he has bad times he has a real moan about his wife but doesn't want any advice and yes it's best to not say anything---he obviously knows I wont be happy because he didn't tell me about the pup,and they got it 2 days ago!!!
Suppose that's what hurst
Thank you for listening

quiltsRfun

Sometimes it's hard being a mother to grown kids. Especially when you see things you can't really do anything about. But we're all here to "listen" so you can get it off your chest.

pab58

All you can do is love him and pray that he will get up the strength to put his foot down -- or in her behind! :wink:

ptquilts

just don't make yourself available for non-human babysitting!!

nativetexan

Hmmmm, sounds very familiar to me. I wonder why?
my son is in Texas so there isnt' much i can do to help him.
This is your son's life. all you can do is give him a peaceful place to stop by so he can take a deep breath and go on.
just be there if he needs you.

leatheflea

Cant say as I blame you. You mentioned he has a child, how old is your grandbaby? Arnt they just wonderful! I remember my kids when they were little they wanted every stray animal that passed. Just be glad she didnt bring home a snake like my son and then asked me to hold it while he set up the tank for it...yuk...I did. Maybe on second thought if she did bring home a snake the snake would take care of some of the other critters! Sounds like hes a good man, trying to make them happy. Hang in there.

yolanda

I have a son who married his pregnant girlfriend and she had two twin girls aleady - this was 4 years ago - it was rocky at first but now all is well from their perspective. I have watched my son go from living at home playing video games at night to a sole provider to a family of five - it's amazing what he has accomplished but it's tough... he's so very stressed and I hardly recognize him. I am proud of what he has accomplished but concerned for him the long run. Does that make sense?

yolanda

oh gosh and don't say anything that remotely could sound negative about your DIL or that will be that!! when my son got married someone told me "you are no longer your sons mom, you are now your sons wifes mother-in-law" ---- I quickly found out what that meant!