What gifting a quilt means to me
12-28-2010, 06:43 PM
#21
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How about calling and asking her, "I was thinking about you, how about going out to lunch? What day/time are you available? I love you and would really enjoy some time with just you and I." :D:D:D
12-28-2010, 06:43 PM
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With some people, no matter what you do will make them happy. My MIL has only one child. She says she lost 7, but I know better what happened to them. When I got pregnant of my third she said to me that I "have options" if I didn't want another one. Anyways, I am drifting from the subject. She hates my guts and tells everyone that she knows I don't like her. As usual, she do things and blames it on others...again drifting...12 years ago my husband got sick and needed a kidney transplant. His father was his first donor and best option. He was found to have a cancerous tumor sitting next to his kidney once they opened him to do the transplant. She cried and made a scene worthy of Broadway, but never once offered one of her kidneys to her only child. I was tested the same day as his father and knew I was compatible enough, so the hospital said they needed to take the mother first before even testing me further. She wouldn't do it, so I told the Dr if I wasn't the next donor we would go to another transplant center and tell them he had no mother. Two months later I gave him one of my kidneys.
Ever since this woman has not change a bit the way she treats me (well, lately she has because I heard her say some horrible things to her husband.I have the upper hand and Know how to play it). She has never thank me. I don't need her too, but It would be nice. She still tells everyone I hate her, and I have given up on her. DH wanted to take his car out today with all the snow we have to take her grocery shopping and I set my foot down. She knew there would be snow and didn't go shopping before, and she lives near 3 supermarkets where she wouldn't shop because some items are 10 cents more than other places. Well, let her spend 10 extra cents. Less money to go to the casino.
Sorry, I got carried away again. Is that ^%$& MIL subject. Get me every time.
Just go on with your life and ignore anything she does or says. You will never win in her eyes and is not worth the effort.
Ever since this woman has not change a bit the way she treats me (well, lately she has because I heard her say some horrible things to her husband.I have the upper hand and Know how to play it). She has never thank me. I don't need her too, but It would be nice. She still tells everyone I hate her, and I have given up on her. DH wanted to take his car out today with all the snow we have to take her grocery shopping and I set my foot down. She knew there would be snow and didn't go shopping before, and she lives near 3 supermarkets where she wouldn't shop because some items are 10 cents more than other places. Well, let her spend 10 extra cents. Less money to go to the casino.
Sorry, I got carried away again. Is that ^%$& MIL subject. Get me every time.
Just go on with your life and ignore anything she does or says. You will never win in her eyes and is not worth the effort.
12-28-2010, 06:49 PM
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I'm so sorry that others have such, well, less than nice MILs.
My first one was a throughly nasty female, the other one was an absolute living Portuguese doll. That chubby old lady was one I wanted to be like when I grew up, everyone loved her. She even told me that if my DH, her son, ever got mean to go live with her!! She thought since he fought with brothers as a child he was mean!! He was as sweet as she was...I'll always miss him and her too.
Here's wishing all of you a much better year. May you have all you need and most of what you want.
My first one was a throughly nasty female, the other one was an absolute living Portuguese doll. That chubby old lady was one I wanted to be like when I grew up, everyone loved her. She even told me that if my DH, her son, ever got mean to go live with her!! She thought since he fought with brothers as a child he was mean!! He was as sweet as she was...I'll always miss him and her too.
Here's wishing all of you a much better year. May you have all you need and most of what you want.
12-28-2010, 06:51 PM
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Every quilt is truly stitched with love, why doesn't everyone know that??? dah!!!
12-28-2010, 06:53 PM
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Originally Posted by mommamac
how about sending her a note - something like:
I heard that your new quilt has visited many people ~ I'm thrilled that you think so much of it. Only special people get quilts from me and I'm happy to say you are one!
I heard that your new quilt has visited many people ~ I'm thrilled that you think so much of it. Only special people get quilts from me and I'm happy to say you are one!
12-28-2010, 07:29 PM
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Originally Posted by lots2do
I think I'd really look at the person who told you that and wonder about any hidden agenda that person might have (unless it's your husband). I never really understand why people pass that kind of info along. Is it meant to make you happier? More secure with her? I just don't get that.
But, I am glad that she loved your quilt. I'd take her actions over someone else's talk anytime.
But, I am glad that she loved your quilt. I'd take her actions over someone else's talk anytime.
12-28-2010, 07:31 PM
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Originally Posted by Jim's Gem
Originally Posted by mommamac
how about sending her a note - something like:
I heard that your new quilt has visited many people ~ I'm thrilled that you think so much of it. Only special people get quilts from me and I'm happy to say you are one!
I heard that your new quilt has visited many people ~ I'm thrilled that you think so much of it. Only special people get quilts from me and I'm happy to say you are one!
12-28-2010, 07:35 PM
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Great point!!! I would just let that one go. My MIL (rest in peace) would pull some weird things when she was feeling a little needy. I finally just stopped paying any attention to that. Wasnt worth it. I know I loved her, I told her I loved her and I was there w/ my DH (her son) when she took her last breath. She knows...trust me...she is just stirring the pot a bit. Hang in there girl!
12-28-2010, 07:45 PM
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I have a MIL that I love dearly, moreso now that my own mom is gone. We live about 100 miles apart, but talk on the phone often and visit when we can. I told her after I got a DIL that I hoped I would be as good as she had been. She cried. I never leave or hang up without telling her I love her. When DH and I married, she told him he better be good to me because I was way too good for him...she was kidding. A little. She's been my MIL for 41 years and I don't think we've ever had a cross word. I have been blessed.
12-28-2010, 07:54 PM
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I agree with this too. Some people are just so insecure they can't imagine that someone really loves them just for themselves.
I like this!!!!
Ditto!
Originally Posted by np3
Originally Posted by Jim's Gem
Originally Posted by mommamac
how about sending her a note - something like:
I heard that your new quilt has visited many people ~ I'm thrilled that you think so much of it. Only special people get quilts from me and I'm happy to say you are one!
I heard that your new quilt has visited many people ~ I'm thrilled that you think so much of it. Only special people get quilts from me and I'm happy to say you are one!
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