What a horrible day...I hate hospitals
06-09-2011, 03:48 AM
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I am so sorry that you have had to deal with all that, but being in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship requires it sometimes (just like being married). It will get better, but will just take time. I just spent 10 weeks with the hubby in the hospital (intestinal transplant) so I know how bad it can get. The ICU was awesome and never had any problems there. I could stay with him 24/7 and if there were more people staying, the waiting rooms were full of people who were camping out and sleeping on the floor....no space anywhere, all full. I think the biggest thing I have learned throughout my husband's illness is that you can always say NO! No to a test, No to a med, No to a nurse or Dr. As difficult as it sounds, you sometimes know what is best for yourself or your significant other and will have to take a stand against unnecessary testing and drugs. Make the Drs and nurses explain things until you understand and never, never, never take for granted anything. Drs and nurses make mistakes too!
06-09-2011, 05:08 AM
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i am sorry, prayers being sent. i'm sure he will be fine. but you take care of yourself too. stress will lower your bodies resistance and you don't need to become ill either.
i agree you have to keep an eye things. hospitals move so fast and with so many patients, mistakes can happen. when my dad had to go so often and get blood transfusions, i just happened to look at the bag. it was the wrong blood type. i asked the nurse to double check and it was wrong. he wound up having to get meds to counteract the effects of the wrong type blood. it could have been bad if he'd gotten all of that bag.
i agree you have to keep an eye things. hospitals move so fast and with so many patients, mistakes can happen. when my dad had to go so often and get blood transfusions, i just happened to look at the bag. it was the wrong blood type. i asked the nurse to double check and it was wrong. he wound up having to get meds to counteract the effects of the wrong type blood. it could have been bad if he'd gotten all of that bag.
06-09-2011, 11:35 AM
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why does someone need to be with a patient all the time when not in ICU?? family seems to be doing the job of Nurses these days. I had to go sit with my husband after his knee surgery rather than go work and earn money to pay the Hospital bills. difficult to do, but had to. The Nurses said they were short staffed. so family has do pitch in. not that we know what to look for. scary.
06-09-2011, 03:01 PM
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So sorry -- we will be praying for both of you.
Many years ago, hubby was in the hospital. He was admitted directly from the doctor's office and we carried the doctor's orders with us. We both read them -- which is more than the staff did. If he and I had not been on top of things he may not have made it since the treatment the staff tried to do was contrary to what was ordered. Every time someone new came on we had to tell them they could not do what they started to do and remind them to read the orders.
He was in the hospital for 6 days and I really could not leave him when he slept for fear someone would do something wrong.
Moral of the story -- if you or someone you love is in the hospital it is worth it having someone with you.
Many years ago, hubby was in the hospital. He was admitted directly from the doctor's office and we carried the doctor's orders with us. We both read them -- which is more than the staff did. If he and I had not been on top of things he may not have made it since the treatment the staff tried to do was contrary to what was ordered. Every time someone new came on we had to tell them they could not do what they started to do and remind them to read the orders.
He was in the hospital for 6 days and I really could not leave him when he slept for fear someone would do something wrong.
Moral of the story -- if you or someone you love is in the hospital it is worth it having someone with you.
06-09-2011, 03:26 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear about your boyfriends infection. I am a non-healer and when I had my 1st c-section, the wound got infected & the only thing that healed it was pure aloe-vera spray...after weeks of irrigating the wound, antibiotics, etc. then the wound specialist said she went to a seminar & had this spray to try on wounds. Worked like a miracle.
06-11-2011, 03:49 PM
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He is now home safe and sound. I have managed to get some sleep but I am still wiped out. I am taking him to bed early with me. He has not gotten much rest either. Hospitals are horrible places to rest..blah!
He has lost a pound a day since the 3rd (the day of the surgery). He can spare the weight so we are not worried about that. He can eat now but it is a little at a time and as soft as possible. I made homemade chicken noodle soup tonight...that went pretty well. Baby steps...tomorrow will be better still.
Thank you everyone for your well wishes. It means a great deal to us.
He has lost a pound a day since the 3rd (the day of the surgery). He can spare the weight so we are not worried about that. He can eat now but it is a little at a time and as soft as possible. I made homemade chicken noodle soup tonight...that went pretty well. Baby steps...tomorrow will be better still.
Thank you everyone for your well wishes. It means a great deal to us.
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