When People Ask For Hand Outs and Donations
06-08-2010, 04:57 PM
#61
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I do not give to anyone online, because people can really make themselves sound alot worse off than they really are. I know it from experience. Don't mean to sound bitter, just telling it like it has been in my experience. I apologize to those of you who really are in need.
06-08-2010, 05:00 PM
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I think it's strange/forward for folks to ask... just raise your hand if someone offers.
06-08-2010, 05:16 PM
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Originally Posted by dsb38327
Originally Posted by Lockeb
Marsye,
Thanks for starting this thread....it is an interesting read....I think that many of us have been wondering :-)
Thanks for starting this thread....it is an interesting read....I think that many of us have been wondering :-)
Months ago I sent a large box, never heard a thing. I have sent out a couple on the pay if forward thread, and have one more to go out. All have responed with a thank you. For the last two I did have to ask for postage, like many here, unemployement has run out.
06-08-2010, 05:18 PM
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Originally Posted by barnbum
What I get weary of is the "Oh, I wish I could afford it." line. It just gets old.
These statements make me feel guilty due to what I do have. I love to help a fellow quilter out if they need it. And I do. But...there is a fine line in helping and full fledge supporting their hobby. If I could not afford to sew or quilt, I would not expect anyone else to support my hobby. I will help anyone that needs help if I can though. Fully supporting them, no.
06-08-2010, 05:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Gramof6
Originally Posted by barnbum
What I get weary of is the "Oh, I wish I could afford it." line. It just gets old.
These statements make me feel guilty due to what I do have. I love to help a fellow quilter out if they need it. And I do. But...there is a fine line in helping and full fledge supporting their hobby. If I could not afford to sew or quilt, I would not expect anyone else to support my hobby. I will help anyone that needs help if I can though. Fully supporting them, no.
I would never ever ever have asked anyone for fabric. Nor would I have hinted I'd like some.
Just a turn off for me...
06-08-2010, 05:30 PM
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I have to agree with Barnbum:
"I would never ever ever have asked anyone for fabric. Nor would I have hinted I'd like some."
"I would never ever ever have asked anyone for fabric. Nor would I have hinted I'd like some."
06-08-2010, 05:32 PM
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Originally Posted by dsb38327
Originally Posted by cjomomma
I love to help others all that I can, I figure if they are being dishonest then that is on them. I had asked for help with sports fabric once and I received so much I had to start turning ppl down cause I didn't want to seem greedy. What ever I had left over I sent to another quilter that was in need of the same thing. That being said I prefer to come across the person and not receive a PM asking for help especially when they are brand new to the QB and know they can't post in the classifieds until they are regular members. I always try to let ppl know where my fabric comes from so that I don't waste my time. I could go on forever but I will stop.
I got a pm too asking for selvedges. The person joined April 23, 2010. Sent me the pm May 8, 2010. I just checked and the person has created 0 topics and made 0 responses to post. I have read post that 'gave me a funny feeling' but how would we ever know? We just have to make the best decisions we can, bless it and go on.
06-08-2010, 05:34 PM
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Originally Posted by justme
I have to agree with Barnbum:
"I would never ever ever have asked anyone for fabric. Nor would I have hinted I'd like some."
"I would never ever ever have asked anyone for fabric. Nor would I have hinted I'd like some."
But I don't mind giving when I can when I know they need it. I will feed you if your hungry but I won't buy you cigarettes.
06-08-2010, 05:40 PM
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Seems this is another topic that raises eyebrows. Being helpful and being used are two different things. And as some have said, a thank you or a display of something being made with the donation is a true gift in return. I am sure there are times when we all could use a donation to get one through a rough period. I won't say that someone should not quilt because they cannot afford fabric, as we all know, it is an outlet and great for the mind and relaxing as well. Many here have come up with ingenious ideas of how to work around being without, such as yard sales, thrift shops, clothes no longer being worn etc. but, a gift from a quilter, a friend or new friend is always a blessing in times of need. I hope no one becomes to cynical to close the door to a healthy donation for the good of another, be it small or large, for most it is greatly appreciated.
06-08-2010, 05:53 PM
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Originally Posted by marsye
Originally Posted by justme
I have to agree with Barnbum:
"I would never ever ever have asked anyone for fabric. Nor would I have hinted I'd like some."
"I would never ever ever have asked anyone for fabric. Nor would I have hinted I'd like some."
But I don't mind giving when I can when I know they need it. I will feed you if your hungry but I won't buy you cigarettes.
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