"what do I do?"
05-12-2011, 08:46 PM
#21
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Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Jozefow, Poland
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Originally Posted by Monie
You r right my grandkids have not ask for a quilt, and my daughter is way to busy to help(yah right) and I don't know any of there teachers they go to school in a different town. I think she is going to pass on the $40.00 she is planning her wedding. Think I am off the hook. Thanks again ladies!
In your case, it would be simple to say, "I don't have enough time right now as the deadline is too soon, sorry." End of discussion. People who haven't put any thought into their request simply say "OK" and go on without realizing how much angst they have given to the person they requested this thing of.
I have people ask me often to do things I don't want to do and I hate to tell them "no" and so I struggle...When I have to say "No", often they were "just checking" and accept the answer just fine--almost as if they weren't really expecting a "yes". So, the next time someone asks me to make cupcakes or pumpkin bread, I'll say "no", without sweating it.
Of course, not everyone has trouble simply laughing and saying, "You've got to be kidding!"
05-12-2011, 09:04 PM
#22
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Illinois
Posts: 166
Problem is that people (even our children and spouses) really do not realize how much time and money this all takes. I got hung up on making baby quilts for all of my girlfriends grandchildren when they were born and it got to the point that quilting wasn't fun any more. it was a chore. I had a deadline and I realized that i wasn't quilting anything- nothing - for myself. so i've just quietly gotten out of it. i was so desperate at one point that i thought of buying cheap quilts that i have seen made ( I have seen awsome reasonable quilts at craft fairs-that's another topic) and pawn them off as mine. (no, i did not do this-don't you all kick me off the board now- it was just one little desperate nasty thought.) anyway- from now on- i quilt for relaxation and for myself. problem solved (until the next baby is born- i'm a sucker)
05-12-2011, 10:14 PM
#23
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Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: La Grande, OR
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Originally Posted by carolaug
Well...that is tricky...me I would have my daughter buy the materials and make them if I had nothing to do...but I doubt that I would have nothing to do...so I would decline unless I really wanted to do them.
05-13-2011, 02:22 AM
#24
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Location: Behind my sewing machine
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I was just asked by my SIL to do one for her DD and she would pay me...she has no clue...there is no way she can afford it...My Husband thinks I should do it...Nope...I have too many projects on my own...If I do it...I will help her not do it. She can come over and I will show her...I thought maybe I will give her some of my scraps that are already cut up (she can not afford fabric)...really do not even want to do that...so I am not going to reply...and wait until the subject comes up again. - hoping it does not...
05-13-2011, 02:44 AM
#25
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Location: Australia
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Just tell her that you are unable because of recovering from surgery or simply because it is a big job to make one, takes time and $$$ and you are unable to spare any at the moment. A sensitive lass will understand.
05-13-2011, 03:29 AM
#27
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Location: Long Island, NY
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Originally Posted by jeaninmaine
Why not show her how to make them.
Question about summer quilts without batting - what do you put inside? Nothing?
05-13-2011, 04:17 AM
#29
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: St. Charles, Illinois
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Originally Posted by ckcowl
if you are going to make these quilts i would charge her what it cost's to make them.
i have made lots of (personal) quilts for my kids and grandkids- every now and then one of them will call and ask me to make a (favor) quilt for them to give to some one else- i do these for the cost of the materials. i do not make a profit off my children but i do expect them to be responsible and when they want to give someone a gift they need to either make it or buy it
i have made lots of (personal) quilts for my kids and grandkids- every now and then one of them will call and ask me to make a (favor) quilt for them to give to some one else- i do these for the cost of the materials. i do not make a profit off my children but i do expect them to be responsible and when they want to give someone a gift they need to either make it or buy it
