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    Old 12-28-2010, 08:50 PM
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    Kelly, I am sorry your family did not appreciate their gifts. If it's ever possible, take them to a fabric store, craft fair or quilt show and let them see what others are saying and paying for fabric or a handmade one of a kind purse or quilt. Bet they will be shocked and will be wanting you to make them something else.
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    Old 12-28-2010, 09:20 PM
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    Originally Posted by ftkls501
    I am no longer going to make pureses for family I worked soooo hard getting every one a purse to only have them not like them. They were like oh ths is what you got us? It is not what i expected exspeacially after working so hard but one thing i have learned it is not their thing. I felt like i worked for nothing. I wish they could know how much work and love went into them.
    I'm so sorry for this after you put so much into them but my feeling is that a purse is a very personal choice. I feel it's like trying to buy shoes for somebody. You just never know what their taste is. You might consider saying to them "I'm sorry the purse isn't to your liking but I want you to know how much love I put into making it just for you". Might soften the pain for you.
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    Old 12-28-2010, 09:59 PM
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    Just a thought. I don't use purses, have only own one in my whole life but if someone took the time to make me one I would find some way to use it. It may not be used as a purse per say but I would find some thing to do with it, like carrying my quilting blocks around or other small projects. Even storing my extra spools of thread would be a great idea but of course they don't sew. The point is they should think outside the box and be grateful you spent your time making them something.

    Their response to your hard work was totally unacceptable and I think I would let them know how much it hurt your feelings. It just wasn't right for them to do that.
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    Old 12-28-2010, 10:43 PM
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    Originally Posted by kathidahl
    Originally Posted by Alondra
    Idea for next year: give all the ingrates a pretty card with a note explaining that you have donated a quilt to a child in the pediatric ward at your local hospital in their name. If they don't like that, they won't dare say so, because it would make them look like the Grinch. Then don't forget to take a tax deduction for the donation. <G> Double revenge. Ooooh, I'm so bad!
    I LOVE THIS COMMENT!! I do not have the ungrateful problem, but if I did, I think I would do this!!
    That's an awesome idea! LOVE IT.
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    Old 12-28-2010, 10:48 PM
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    I LOVE Alondra's comment about "donating a quilt in your name" to the local hospital! What a clever and gracious way is sending the message that there is someone more deserving of your many hours of work!
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    Old 12-28-2010, 11:24 PM
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    I would have taken them back and then hand them a 20 and said Merry Christmas to you, too. Then find someone that would be grateful, even if they were complete strangers. I gave 4 quilts and several oven mitts away, big enough for a mans Hands, and everyone loved them.
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    Old 12-28-2010, 11:26 PM
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    I don't think I'd make anything for anyone who doesn't do some kind of craft (sewing, knitting, etc.). Because they would understand the difference between walking in a store and paying for something (they think that is hard work) and planning, buying the material, cutting it out, sewing,ironing and making sure it is just right. Even people that think they know what you do, don't always realize the work,time and money that goes into our craft.
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    Old 12-28-2010, 11:30 PM
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    what a rotton thing to happen to you . hugs to you .
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    Old 12-29-2010, 03:07 AM
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    Gift giving has two parts because there is a giver and a recipient. Giving is an act of love with no strings attached whether we toss a few coins in street buskers cap or spend hours making a beautiful (in our eyes) purse the intent is the same - to show to that person that they are worthy of our time, effort and money. On the other hand to receive a gift is also to recognise the value placed upon their worth by the giver and therefore be grateful. What that person does with your gift is not your concern, you have done your bit. It is said that it is much better and easier to give than receive and if you think about it have you ever had a gift that you were less than ecstatic about?? I'm ashamed of how many of my gifts end up as raffle prizes
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    Old 12-29-2010, 03:13 AM
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    Sorry, my furbaby Oscar cat just posted for me - he wants attention. I was going to finish off by apologising for being preachy - it's just that I've been exlaining this very thing to a young friend who is not happy with his Christmas presents. He got what he asked for - just not the designer label!
    Happy New Year to all you quilty people and God bless you.
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