Bargaining Power
#41
Junior Member
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 102
I've been marred for 44 yrs. my DH has been disabled most of that time! So I have worked. Now I'm Retired, I like to sew, make quilts and buy fabric. He would not dare say anything about what I spent on my fabric or any other sewing. I have earned it and he knows when he better off. I'm not being salffish. But I have a desent retirement & he only has SS. Our Money is our Money but He has no right to say any thing
#42
When my DH says anything about how many sewing machines I have I just ask him how many saws, or hammers, or other tools he has.
He says, "yes, but each one does something different". To which I reply, "and the same with my sewing machines!"
He says, "yes, but each one does something different". To which I reply, "and the same with my sewing machines!"
#44
Senior Member
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Arkansas
Posts: 952
I LOVE that "Jim" story......I could insert my husband's name in that story, and it would almost match him word for word......and I have almost felt like Peggy several times. However, he never says amything about my spending money on my quilting hobby. He says, "You pay the bills, you know whether we can afford it or not." LOL
#45
I count my blessings - my DH never complains about what I spend on fabric. In fact, nearly every time we travel he will stop at quilt shops with me. While in Arkansas last year we stumbled upon a shop hop - he drove me to 9 out of the 13, all on those wonderful curvy hilly roads that were unfamiliar! He's a keeper!
#46
Guess what: My DH also moved the TV into my quilting area on the third floor. He says it's being together just to be in the same room even if I have the sewing machine humming while he has the remote humming. He knows I'm enjoying myself and we are not so far removed from one another being on different floors. He also likes to encourage me. Like I need it!! LOL
I don't know for sure but maybe he realized that quilting is not 'just cutting fabric into small pieces so you can sew it back together into a large piece' That comment went over liike a lead balloon. Gotta love him! Sorry I went on so long.
So sweet!! Mine often moves to the living room instead of his fav recliner in the family room because it's 50 feet closer to my sewing room:) He says he likes being close -Awww...
I don't know for sure but maybe he realized that quilting is not 'just cutting fabric into small pieces so you can sew it back together into a large piece' That comment went over liike a lead balloon. Gotta love him! Sorry I went on so long.
So sweet!! Mine often moves to the living room instead of his fav recliner in the family room because it's 50 feet closer to my sewing room:) He says he likes being close -Awww...
#47
Power Poster
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: West Roxbury, Ma
Posts: 10,353
My Dh never says anything about my fabric collection or continued purchases. I'm not sure if he really even notices. He has never said anything ever about my spending on anything but several years back he took over the food shopping when our 3 boys were younger saying that I had enough to do with 3 little ones but I knew what he was thinking. He didn't realize food was so expensive and he felt this would lower the bills. After a few weeks he started cutting out coupons. He still does the shoping and I don't mind. I make out the list and he buys.
#48
I spoiled my DH in the 46 yrs. we are married, but he has never complained about my fabric or machines. In fact he encourages me and will stop at the fabric store when we go to the VA-45 miles from here. So I guess he spoiled me big time.
#49
Originally Posted by Sunflower Girl
Stopped by WalMart while in Amarillo yesterday, and told husband I just needed a little bit to work on some purses next week. Well, after we got out of the store, he said, "I thought you said it was only going to be about $12?" (It was $30) I said, "I think you spend that much on beer for a week." That shut him up. About 10 minutes later, he agreed and apologized! See, you just have to know the right words to make them think!
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