toverly

Love that response! It's perfect.

junipergal

Very interesting! Carol34446 - you go girl!! Steady Stitching, margee, Barb in Lousiana, Betty62, Lizzies home, FroggyinTexas, CAS49OR, Nessie - thank you for speaking up. I do not belong to a guild due to the this openion that I have to fit There mold or just get out, there colors, there designs, there area of town, there line of work...the intolerance is intolerable! Isn't the spice of life what makes it more enjoyable?

MadQuilter

She may be trying the group on for size and she may decide that you are not her cup of tea either. I'd give it some time. If she is a drama queen, then not getting the response she needs will make her not come. If she is just suffering from newbee jitters, she may well adapt to the cameraderie in the group and fit in. You just never know. I met my BGF that way. Told DH that I will either have to kill this crazy woman or befriend her and as I didn't want to go to jail.....30 years later we are still friends and she is still crazy. lol

debbiemarie

"Chatty Cathy" might be feeling like she needs to talk about herself so someone in your group will feel they have something in common with her and want to be her friend. I can't help but think to myself, how would I feel if I were in her place? If I were talking so much others wanted me to leave the group, I would wish someone would at least let me know what I was doing to offend the others. I would hope someone in the group saw something worthwhile in me to look past my faults, (...we all have faults). I would be devastated if the group started meeting at another location in which I had not been invited!!! You could start the group time in a new way more structured, plan to go around the room giving everyone a chance to say something about...something like the most memorable discussions they can remember in the group, and during that time mention how much you like it when the group is mellow.

Mdegenhart

I dropped out of Brownies in second grade because I couldn't understand why girls were so mean to each other. I haven't changed my opinion much.

Seriously, I've been thinking of joining a quilt guild. It also has several small groups that meet at member's houses. I am an introvert & it takes some "courage" for me to join things & try to make new friends. I found this post so disheartening...

seamstome

This IS my mother. She never pauses. OTOH, my dad is practically deaf and she doesn't have anybody to talk to. Unless her comments were inappropriate, I would try it again

nygal

By the title I thought this was about the real "Chatty Cathy" doll. lol I still have mine!! Sorry about the chatty lady at the meeting. Maybe she will wise up and be a little less talkative..but there are some people that just are that way. It can be difficult to sit by them.

Patti25314

I love this! If one person in the group is truly wonderful at getting the point across but in a really nice way, then go for it after a couple of more visits. Humor is also a great way to deal with the problem. Now, how do you deal with folks who take cell phone calls and don't leave the room? Especially during classes?

Neesie

If it's something you want to do, you shouldn't let others discourage you. If you can, contact one of the members first and introduce yourself. If there are several groups, chances are you'll fit perfectly into one of them.

I don't think anyone means to be mean, here. It's just that different people have different comfort levels, when relating to others. I don't dislike chatty people but non-stop chatterers eventually make me very tired. It's a sort of sensory overload.

jeanharville

I think there is a difference between contributing (talkative) and dominating a conversation. When one person hogs the conversation and is constantly talking about themselves and their interests at the expense of other people in the group who would also like to comment, I think it is rude behavior. I've been a mother of three little stair-step boys and I understand how one longs for adult conversation. But the word conversation means everyone who wants to join gets to. If you know you're chatty, try asking leading questions to your friends to include them. Your might learn something interesting about them. We all love to talk about ourselves or to help others, so ask for help with a quilting problem or about a recipe, anything to get others to talk too. Please be thoughtful of all the people in the group and don't dominate. JM2C.