MelissaK

My husband bow hunts... hunting is very expensive if you think about the cost of a bow and the 4 or 5 tree stands he has. He has always been very supportive of me sewing/quilting. He has never complained when I buy anything. Not even before he started hunting...

gwena

Oh Eddie, I like your response. Makes all the sense in the world

peaceandjoy

Like a few others here, DH and I have maintained separate accounts for years. When we were first married, he was in college, I was the one working - I tried to always make sure he had a little spending money (granted, it wasn't much - we didn't have much). A few years later, when first DD came along and I was the one w/out an income, he wasn't quite as generous as I had been. Don't get me wrong - he is a saver, and that has its positives, too! He also has NO clue what this hobby costs.

The reason I quoted your response, Martha Jo, was that I just wanted to say what a wonderful story it is. I'm so glad you had someone who encouraged you during the good times, that you were there for him in the bad, and I believe that he's encouraging you still.

Old man- New quilter

My wife and I buy our fabric together since we are both quilters.

Deecee

Lovely storey martha jo. I hope you have all the enjoyment you deserve from your sewing.

GailG

Wow, this is SOME thread!! I don't have time to read all of it right now, but feel I must put my two cents in. First, let me say, he has no "hobbies" but loves the casino. So, when I go on a fabric spree, I come home and tell him that I have been to the fabric casino. He's fine with it. Although he does raise his eyebrow occasionally when he sees "the stash." We're both still trying to get adjusted to TWO retirees in the house, so there haven't been as many trips to the casino and to the fabric store.

quiltingnonie

once in awhile he grumbles, but then all I have to do is mention HOW much money he spends on wood--he's a woodcrafter. Men's hobbies are way more expensive!

redpurselady

Many years ago I was married to a "macho" control freak. Notice the word "was". I remember asking him once for $5 for a haircut (this was back in the 70's) and he said no, not because he didn't have the money, just because it was his way of showing me he was in control. I had 3 children at the time and did not work. My parents would help me out financially for my personal stuff. After 10 years of mental abuse, I hit the road with my two girls and one-year old son. So, with my DH today, I do not ask permission or consult him to buy anything (unless it is a major purchase)and we keep separate accounts. Yea, he makes comments about all the fabric in my sewing room, but I just ignore him. His favorite phrase is "Oh, just what we need, more fabric". Usually, I keep my stash in the trunk and I bring it in when he is not around so I don't have to explain, not that it really matters anyway. We pay our bills together and I allow myself so much "play" money every month.

I must say though, that my husband was the one that encouraged me to buy my Bernina about 7 years ago. He went online and at that time they had a no interest deal so he told me to go for it.

Mousie

I think mine used to worry about the volume I had, but since we are both disabled and on a fixed income, we have allowances.
We are both free to use that allowance as we see fit and no comments from the peanut gallery...
So, he doesn't say much...out loud...and he better not:wink:
I have an al-kabong, frying pan with his name on it, if he does, lol! ...but I am still prone to tiny twinges of guilt at times...don't know why.
I make for others. I think that is what you are feeling. Tell that hubby about the al-kabong or the free trips to the moon and see if he backs off :lol:

LoisN

My husband is a woodworker, so needless to say, his hobby is expensive also. For Christmas he bought me several jelly rolls, charm packs and a very generous gift certificate to a local fabric store. He's the best. I think I'll keep him.