Does your husband understand?
#101
My DH has supported me in all the crafts I have done over the years. Bead weaving was rough for him to understand because the beads are so expensive, but he brings out the items I have made to show folks and always tells me to be sure and put my name on the items. He doesn't understand "stash." He likes that I make things for family members and when I mention that his sister would like an item he adds that so would SILs, nieces, etc. He has been very patient while I have been building my stash. He still rolls his eyes when I bring more fabric home, but all in all he understands how happy quilting makes me and that in turn seems to make him happy.
#102
I started to quilt out of a therapeutic need for peace and to grieve. DH couldn't understand the pain I was in, but he knew I needed something to cope. He didn't understand anything about quilting at first but now he's starting to pick up the lingo and even help pick out fabrics.
#103
Originally Posted by newbee
Originally Posted by DirtyPaw
Some men don't seem to understand and maybe the ladies can be this way too but I learned along time ago let your wife do as she wishes and everyone will be happier.
Blessings,
Rick
Blessings,
Rick
#104
Senior Member
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: league city, texas
Posts: 619
i am very lucky to have a very understanding hubby...he loves that i have started quilting, and supports my efforts...i made him a great quilt, and need to get that finished, but he even understands that other projects are taking priority...he really is a good guy.......gina
#105
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Central Willamette Valley, Oregon, USA
Posts: 7,695
Originally Posted by deema
My husband doesn't bicker about it, but he doesn't understand. He knows I love it and doesn't have any problems with it. He knows I love giving them. He did ask me if I was going to make a quilt for everyone I know and what would I do when everybody got one...I told him I'd finish his. hahaha But he doesn't get it...I think maybe if he had a hobby, he might understand better.
#106
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Glen Burnie, MD
Posts: 927
I've only been quilting about 2 years myself. My husband has been very understanding. He helps with the building, moving and shifting. He supports everything I need to buy. He did not, however get the giving. He thought it was crazy that I wanted to give my first quilt to our daughter. She picked out the fabric and colors for the quilt she wanted. OUR DAUGHTER??!!! He just didn't understand the giving away, until I told him that I love that my daughter wanted something that I had made myself, start to finish. And, it was my first, sight unseen, not knowing how it would turn out. For me there is no better compliment from my children, wanting something I made. I am now working on a quilt for my son and my next will be for my other daughter and each and everyone asked that I make them a quilt. I feel very blessed!
#107
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Florida
Posts: 17,636
I have to say my hubby didn't get it one lick before I joined QB, but since i have read many threads to him, especially the jokes and things, he has a new found respect for it all.
I wouldn't have bet money on that happening. Sometimes you can teach and old husband something new, lol! :lol:
I wouldn't have bet money on that happening. Sometimes you can teach and old husband something new, lol! :lol:
#108
Senior Member
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Louisa, Kentucky
Posts: 352
Wow, all you fortunate women! My late husband sure didn't get it...when he was in the house, anything I liked had to be hidden away (books, magazines, sewing, crocheting, etc.) and I needed to be on my feet working--when he came in the door, the daughters disappeared into their rooms. Thankfully, he was away a lot, with both his work and his hobbies-hunting-- expensive guns (28); fishing-boats (3) and tackle; golfing-custom made clubs and membership fees. But I was raised that a wife should always do everything she could to make her man happy...didn't really understand until many, many years of marriage that I was being mentally and verbally (but not physically) abused. So if any of you have spares around, send them my way!! LOL
#109
I wouldn't wish this on anyone, but NOT having a husband means I can do what I like with my $$. I decide what & when I want and how much time I want/need to do so! I don't advocate the single life, but it hurts to hear my married women friends talk about how they have to lie, hide, deceive or deny buying/doing things for themselves because their husband doesn't/wouldn't approve.
I'm glad I don't have to get permission. That's what parents are for - not spouses. My ex nearly caused a financial crisis with his (secretive) purchases and yet I had to ask for what I wanted. Nope. Never again. I know what my quilting and craft allowance is thank you very much and I manage my spending. I would hate having to ask for permission. It would be nice though to have someone to share my passion and ooh/aah as each project is completed. Cats don't care or give a hoot about anything I do (except when their food dishes are empty). :)
I'm glad I don't have to get permission. That's what parents are for - not spouses. My ex nearly caused a financial crisis with his (secretive) purchases and yet I had to ask for what I wanted. Nope. Never again. I know what my quilting and craft allowance is thank you very much and I manage my spending. I would hate having to ask for permission. It would be nice though to have someone to share my passion and ooh/aah as each project is completed. Cats don't care or give a hoot about anything I do (except when their food dishes are empty). :)
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