kaelynangelfoot

I started a Marine-corp themed quilt for my brother who left for Marine Corp boot camp a couple months ago. He just received a medical discharge and he is devastated.

I don't know whether to give him the quilt or have it "dissapear". It was going to be a surprise for his graduation.

klarina

I would tell him my dilema and let him decide if he wants to have the quilt or not.

JanTx

I would make it disappear. It would be a constant reminder of a dream that didn't happen.

QuiltingCrazie

I would personally wait to give it/mention it. I would let him recover from his loss and settle in before I reminded him of what could have been. The military is a pride thing. Maybe for Christmas, you know your brother better then anyone so you'll know the right time.

Jan in FL

The same thing happened to my brother in the Navy. I would not give it to him if it is Marine Corp themed. Maybe you can rework it enough to change the theme if it isn't already quilted.

DOTTYMO

I would have a chat with him he probably needs comfort at this time. He may want the quilt for a memory, using what ever he has at home of uniform badges etc. or turn it into a wall hanging.

nygal

I agree. I think I'd make him one with a totally different theme.

HillCountryGal

I'd finish it and pass it on to Quilts of Valor.

But first... I'd ask your brother how he feels about it all.

mermaid

I agree with the "don't mention", and "pass on to Quilts of Valor." Smart people on this board!!

orangeroom

I'd donate it to someone else. If he's devastated, then it would be a constant reminder of what he isn't, wasn't and never will be. No one wants/needs to be reminded of what they didn't become.