False Praise
#71
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Liberty Hill - Central TEXAS Hill Country
Posts: 1,040
Originally Posted by kathy
if i just HAVE to say something that might be taken as critisizm i do it by pm, that way NOBODY else hears me so it should not be embarrassing, if they tell me to take hike, nobody knows! and the board is still at peace
#72
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Liberty Hill - Central TEXAS Hill Country
Posts: 1,040
Originally Posted by DogHouseMom
I agree to a point, when I post something and ask for comments, I truely want honest opinions which includes constructive criticizm. Some advice I'll take, some I'll ignore - according to my desires and beliefs - but all constructive criticizm is appreciated even if not used.
A member (an experiencd quilter) posted several blocks the other day, the blocks had yet been joined together. She was looking for comments on the best layout. While she didn't specifically ask for constructive criticizm of the individual blocks *I* had noticed that some of the pieces in one block were flipped. Had it been my block I would have appreciated it being pointed out because that juncture it was easy to fix - so I did point it out to her, as did one or two other members. These things (brain fart mistakes) I think are appreciated when pointed out even if unsolicited. I would not however point out the same error on a quilt that was already quilted - why raise the dead?
When I see a pic of a first quilt or block by a new quilter, and their post starts with something like 'yippee - look what I did!' ... the block could be totally wonky but I wouldn't dare say a word. At that point of "oh my God I actually sewed a bunch of pieces together" - let them have that glory. I would prefer to see them retain that excitement and passion over the possibility of dashing it by saying it isn't right (which may make them think quilting is just too hard!). If they decide they love quilting they'll be seeing more quilts, the more they see the more they'll see the differences, and hopefully the more they will learn.
A member (an experiencd quilter) posted several blocks the other day, the blocks had yet been joined together. She was looking for comments on the best layout. While she didn't specifically ask for constructive criticizm of the individual blocks *I* had noticed that some of the pieces in one block were flipped. Had it been my block I would have appreciated it being pointed out because that juncture it was easy to fix - so I did point it out to her, as did one or two other members. These things (brain fart mistakes) I think are appreciated when pointed out even if unsolicited. I would not however point out the same error on a quilt that was already quilted - why raise the dead?
When I see a pic of a first quilt or block by a new quilter, and their post starts with something like 'yippee - look what I did!' ... the block could be totally wonky but I wouldn't dare say a word. At that point of "oh my God I actually sewed a bunch of pieces together" - let them have that glory. I would prefer to see them retain that excitement and passion over the possibility of dashing it by saying it isn't right (which may make them think quilting is just too hard!). If they decide they love quilting they'll be seeing more quilts, the more they see the more they'll see the differences, and hopefully the more they will learn.
#73
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Liberty Hill - Central TEXAS Hill Country
Posts: 1,040
Originally Posted by ckcowl
i think there is a huge difference between giving friendly constructive criticism and being a nit-picky- (holier than though) quilt police person.
i want to know when i could use some friendly advice that will improve my quilting skills- i do not want the 'police' to pick apart my project and act as if only 'their=way' is the right way.
i do believe there is a huge difference between the two= and i strive to not behave like one of the (power hungry-pickers)and always show support and constructive advice
i want to know when i could use some friendly advice that will improve my quilting skills- i do not want the 'police' to pick apart my project and act as if only 'their=way' is the right way.
i do believe there is a huge difference between the two= and i strive to not behave like one of the (power hungry-pickers)and always show support and constructive advice
#74
I was told once that I try to find the good in people when there really isn't any. That hurt me, but maybe I do find something good where other won't. I don't give praise unless I see something that I like. And I would rather look for something good than look for the negative. Remember the old adage...if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all. Why hurt someone's feelings. If they ask for help or advice then that's different.
#75
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Fort White, Fl
Posts: 2,689
Originally Posted by dakotamaid
I think it is the same as any praise, I try to find something good to say about the color, the pattern, the size,etc. Sometimes it is difficult but I try.:):)
#77
Member
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: vermont
Posts: 25
Well Iwanted to comment on False Praise, but you guys(gals), stole all my thoughts :lol: Thanks, now what am i going to do,oh i suppose i could start another quilt :-)
Hey are you all retired, doesnt anybody have a job :lol: (oh wait a minute..... my excuse im laid off and looking for work,apparently not very hard at the moment) :thumbup:
Really, you all are very thoughtful, cool people, we should all go outfor coffee
Hey are you all retired, doesnt anybody have a job :lol: (oh wait a minute..... my excuse im laid off and looking for work,apparently not very hard at the moment) :thumbup:
Really, you all are very thoughtful, cool people, we should all go outfor coffee
#78
Member
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 20
I like to use this type of experience for teaching rather than critize. I ask how they did whatever the project is and then ask, if they found it difficult. If they had a problem then go on to tell them how I would maybe approached the project. Always trying to be positive and ecouraging. I view quilting as an art and they beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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