Giving them away?
#31
One thing I would suggest is that you include a nice card inside the gift package with a hand-written note about how you enjoyed the many hours of love you put into the quilt when making it for them, how you hope they enjoy it for years to come, etc., so that they get a sense of how you feel about it. Perhaps if they understand your sentiments about it, then it'll help them develop some of their own about it.
#32
Originally Posted by PatriceJ
why do you assume she won't appreciate it or take care of it?
if you have evidence to back up your assumption and you already know it will bother you then don't give her the quilt. save it for somebody else or donate it to charity.
don't set yourself up for a case of the grumpies. ;-)
if you have evidence to back up your assumption and you already know it will bother you then don't give her the quilt. save it for somebody else or donate it to charity.
don't set yourself up for a case of the grumpies. ;-)
BillsBonBon
#33
my dh really made a point of telling our grandson how many hours of "intense labor" went into his quilt. I had to turn my head and smile. He has just recently started to pay attention to the time I spent sewing.Too funny!
I know how you feel though, it is tough to put so much time in something and wonder if it will be appreciated. I decided from now on to just enjoy the process and try not to think about it once it's gone...sigh
Ditter
I know how you feel though, it is tough to put so much time in something and wonder if it will be appreciated. I decided from now on to just enjoy the process and try not to think about it once it's gone...sigh
Ditter
#34
Originally Posted by ghostrider
Originally Posted by bsquilter
His dog was much loved and cared for.
If you give a gift with conditions and expectations attached, then it really isn't a gift at all. It's a sale. And if the recipient does not pay you what it is that you expect, you are guaranteed to be disappointed and resentful.
#35
I know it is difficult to give a quilt to someone who you believe will not appreciate it. It has to come from the heart, not the head. I make hundreds of charity quilts each year and with each one I try to say a prayer or thought of who might be the recipient as I am making it and that way I know I have my heart in the right place. That baby will be kept warm and snuggly even if the mother does not appreciate it. You will also have the joy of giving from your heart. Bless you for putting that little baby first.
#36
The only time I ever changed my mind about giving a quilt to someone was a few years ago when my husband's neice had her first baby. I had once foolishly told her that I sometimes found vintage fabric for my quilts in older clothing at thrift shops.
When she was "expecting" she told me to please not make her a quilt using "dead people's" clothes. If I wanted to make her baby a quilt it had to be made with freshly purchased, new fabric.
I gave her a gift that I purchased for her, but it wasn't a quilt. I have felt funny about her ever since.
When she was "expecting" she told me to please not make her a quilt using "dead people's" clothes. If I wanted to make her baby a quilt it had to be made with freshly purchased, new fabric.
I gave her a gift that I purchased for her, but it wasn't a quilt. I have felt funny about her ever since.
#37
Originally Posted by Bev
When she was "expecting" she told me to please not make her a quilt using "dead people's" clothes. If I wanted to make her baby a quilt it had to be made with freshly purchased, new fabric.
#38
I have a cousin that purposely goes to estate sales to buy what she calls "dead people's clothes" and that is all she wears. I know this is not quilt related but I just had to giggle a little at your posting.
I would love it if someone gave me a quilt with "antique" fabrics in it. I treasure the quilts that my mom and my grandma made and I inherited. Grandma's has silk flowers appliqued on it and the silk is shredding. I took it to an appraiser and asked what I could do about it and she said..."Honey, just enjoy it and know that your grandma loved you".
I would love it if someone gave me a quilt with "antique" fabrics in it. I treasure the quilts that my mom and my grandma made and I inherited. Grandma's has silk flowers appliqued on it and the silk is shredding. I took it to an appraiser and asked what I could do about it and she said..."Honey, just enjoy it and know that your grandma loved you".
#39
Last year I made a rag quilt the shape of a dog to give to a girl here in town that was alot of time and money and really wished I had kept it. I put hangers on the back so she would put it on the wall and thats not where it is now. She put it in the crib and the baby sleeps on it. They were away for a week so I was taking care of their dogs and took a peek and seeing the shape it was in I just cried. She is pregnant again and I will not make her anything ever again. I was making a baby blanket for someone else recently and she seen it and asked if it was for her new baby and I just laughed and said yeah ahhhhh NO.
Some people just don't realize the time and money spent to make quilts. I hope she appretiates the quilt your making for her.
Some people just don't realize the time and money spent to make quilts. I hope she appretiates the quilt your making for her.
#40
My 21 year old daughter just finished a baby quilt for her 21 year old friend. The friend couldn't even wait until it was finished to see it! She came over to the house while my daughter was still working on it. She is too excited. I guess it truly depends on the person who is receiving it, but the gift and love is the ultimate reason for the giving, not what the person chooses to do with it. Finish it, give it and feel good about it.
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