Granny Mary's Quilt
#41
My heart breaks for you.
As others have stated in this thread it is an all to common occurrence in nursing facilities. In our experience an afghan disappeared never to be seen again. The staff in my observation had a high turnover rate during our Mother's 1 year stay. Under paid, under staffed, under appreciated, this not by any means is an excuse for theft, nor to say that it is staff.
Unfortunately in the U.S. unless you are extremely wealthy and are self-insured, the care of the elderly is alarming with cursory oversight to protect and care for fragile end of life care.
As others have stated in this thread it is an all to common occurrence in nursing facilities. In our experience an afghan disappeared never to be seen again. The staff in my observation had a high turnover rate during our Mother's 1 year stay. Under paid, under staffed, under appreciated, this not by any means is an excuse for theft, nor to say that it is staff.
Unfortunately in the U.S. unless you are extremely wealthy and are self-insured, the care of the elderly is alarming with cursory oversight to protect and care for fragile end of life care.
#42
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I too made a quilt for my Aunt Mary. I live in another state, so my cousin took it to her, took pictures of her with the quilt and promptly took it home. My cousin had a photo made for her to keep bedside. It's not the same but she too didn't want the quilt to relocate.
#43
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I am sorry for your loss. Have you looked in their laundry room and the rooms for it? I had bought my mother a real nice spred for her bed and house keeping took it and washed it put another one on her bed she was having a meltdown over it I had to go and find it in the laundry room it had her name on it but they just put it in regular laundry.
#44
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I'm so sorry that this happened to you and your Granny. When I was a hospice nurse, I made several quilts for patients. There was two at one nursing home that I had made. One turned up missing and of course no one knew anything about it and the poor patient didn't have any family members to watch over her. I knew who took it, but couldn't prove it, but I figured that she had a higher authority to answer to one of these days.
#45
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I hate to say this, but that happens all the time in nursing homes. My mom finally had to take the big step because she had serious sight problems. Things went missing all the time, and often my sister found that another nursing home resident had taken it. She saw a woman walking down the hall with Mom's slippers on. I'd make something with just nice big squares. I donate the tied fleece ones(or I sew two fleece pieces together, right sides out, sew it all the way around, trim with a scalloped rotary cutter, and call it a day. They look nice and are so cuddly.
#46
Check out http://googlyeyesglitter.blogspot.co...are-trick.html
I started this last night and have a 36-inch square this morning. For a larger quilt, make several similar tops and stitch them together before making your sandwich.
Blessings to your Granny Mary!
I started this last night and have a 36-inch square this morning. For a larger quilt, make several similar tops and stitch them together before making your sandwich.
Blessings to your Granny Mary!
#47
It broke my heart reading your story. It's not the "fabric" or "batting" or anything like that...it's the love that was put into it. I completely and totally understand. There are so many people in the homes now, and not to mention the visitors, that anything is likely to come up missing. Grandma had all sorts of things grow legs and walk off but thankfully nothing sentimental or of any value. I do hope the quilt is found or you can put together another one. I looked at the Stripee pattern and it's really pretty! My vote is you do that one but I hope you're not disappointed again by it disappearing. Prayers coming the first one is found and returned to Granny Mary!!!
#49
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This happens even in the best of nursing homes. I worked in one where after looking through security camera video they finally found that an aide went out the back door with a garbage sack, but never put the garbage in the dumpster. That sack went to her car! That is how she took a quilt out of the home. Of course, many could never be traced that far.
It is ok and suggested to make quilts for nursing home residents, just that don't make them cute or terribly personal. I've even heard the uglier the better. And give them to the home, and not a specific person. that way they get a quilt to warm up with, but one that is least likely to walk out the door.
It is ok and suggested to make quilts for nursing home residents, just that don't make them cute or terribly personal. I've even heard the uglier the better. And give them to the home, and not a specific person. that way they get a quilt to warm up with, but one that is least likely to walk out the door.
#50
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Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Houston TX
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I am so sorry this happened. When my mom was in a nursing home a rather new pair of her shoes was missing. I let the home know it was a new pair and kept asking about them (nicely) and weeks later they turned up in her room again. You just never know.
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