guilty quilting - gwuilting
#22
I'm just 54, and now just have my adult son live with me and I still can't have a day for ME unless the house is PERFECT! My Son doesn't care- it's just me. I just feel like I have to discipline myself or I feel guilty. I guess it has it's good and bad points! I have a sewing room that I can close the door to, so that part isn't an issue thank goodness :-)
#23
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Wisconsin
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Originally Posted by mygirl66
Originally Posted by ShirlinAZ
It is a generation of women thing. Those of us over 50 (and a few younger) were raised that it is our job to keep the house clean, cook nourishing meals (3), take care of every one else in the household, and always wear a smile and look good for DH. We weren't supposed to have time for ourselves. Get over it - this is the 21st century! We now know that we are no good for anything if we aren't good to ourselves.
Carol J.
#24
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Ohio
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It's a "woman" thing from past generations. Even though most of us work outside the home now, we still come home to our second job of kids, meals and cleaning. Men have no problem with their hobbies, golf, sports, etc. and we should learn from them. We deserve our time, too. It's just harder to find that time. Enjoy your hobby whenever you can!
Thankfully, I see a lot of the younger generation of men helping with the kids and such.
Thankfully, I see a lot of the younger generation of men helping with the kids and such.
#25
I feel your pain. My housework is constantly being postponed because quilting is so much more fun and fulfilling than dusting. Unfortunately my best friend, who is not a quilter, is an exemplary housekeeper and I want to hide in shame when she comes over. I always advise her to come on a cloudy day and DON'T wear black!
#27
I agree with all of the above! Think of quilting as something we do for us! How would you like to be remembered in the future? For what a great housekeeper you were, or for what beautiful quilts you made! I use to try & do it all, & make everyone in the house happy, but I got over that, & it took a long time. Now, I pretty much quilt when I want to quilt. It's just the two of us now, with hardly every any company at the house here, so I clean when I want to clean, when it bugs me, otherwise, I have more enjoyable & productive pastimes to fill my days & I am so much happier this way! The guilt is still there, at times, but most of the time, it's shoved to the back of my mind, lol...
#29
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Location: Newberg, OR
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I have felt the same way, and so I just assign myself one or several (whatever works) tasks each day. When those are finished, my time is my own. I accomplish something, and I get to quilt without guilt. I've also done it so that I quilt until a certain time, then stop and do some task, then go back to quilting until a certain time. You can set a timer too. This works for me, and I no longer feel guilty.
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