eaglebeak1960

Hi guys, yes I am a male quilter, have any of you ever had this problem?? being a guy quilter in a woman dominated area has its draw backs. they kinda freaked out on me when I asked for help. I am a retired happily married man who just happens to love to quilt. SIGH then WHY do I get the feeling that when I go into a quilt shop unless I spend money there I am not wanted??? I asked for help (on a one on one basis) they could not be bothered to help I have been doing basic quilting for a number of years untill recently. Now I want to Improve my skills,

I even offered to have my wife sit in on the sessions. nope not intrested not for any price. SIGH I just want to quilt.

SOOOOOOOOO I am putting out a call here for any male quilters in my area that have advanced skill levels for help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No No No I am not putting women down.


Yours in Quilting
Chris

Lisa_wanna_b_quilter

I know there have been some issues with at least one other male quilter on our board being refused admittance to certain guilds. It's ridiculous!

Even if no one is close by, you'd be surprised at what this board can accomplish via the internet. If you have a specific question, ask it. Someone will be able to explain it.

sharon b

Chris there is a world of help here - use the tutes and ask many questions :lol:

My friend doesn't quilt but wants to learn and he goes with me to the fabric stores and LQS and they all treat him great , sorry you are running into this problem .

Maggiesmom

I am sorry you have this problem. Speak up here and ask questions. I know you will get a lot of help.

eaglebeak1960

thank you

I need to have a sit down side by side with people... I was injured several years ago. the meds I am forced to take (due to injury) have interfered with my ability to take written directions and make sense of them. sigh and to think I was a very smart man before my injury

Chris

Maggiesmom

Where are these quilt shops in Indiana that won't help you out? PM me and I may be able to direct you to a couple of shops that seem very friendly shops to me.

sahm4605

I can understand not wanting to be alone in a room with a man who you don't know, just dangerous for women, but when you said you would have your wife sit in, that is just unfair. I am sorry that you are having a problem. like others have said, ask questions here and you will get answers. and pics always help. I hope you find a local board member who can help in person. there is no substitute for getting one on one in person help. Good luck and please ask questions here. we will never ignore you just because you are a guy. it is actually nice to see hubbies and other guys who get interested in quilting. gives us a whole new perspective on quilting.

renee765

Hi, Chris

I'm glad to know that you are quilter. My husband (now passed) used to do a lot of needlepoint work. I have his works all over the house. It was neat to see him at work. In the later years, when he went to dialysis three times a week, he used to take his needlepoint with him. I would love to see the looks on others faces as they watched him with his needle. I always wanted to ask them 'where was it written that only females do needlework'? So, from my perspective, I'm very glad to have you among the quilters of the world.

As for the LQS, there is one here in town that when I have been there, I've been treated just as you describe, even though I am a typical-looking female quilter. Perhaps it's just that the particular LQS has really bad customer service and it doesn't matter if your male or female.

Revel in your skills, and don't let boorish clerks dampen your spirits. I appreciate having you on this board.

erstan947

Chris, I know exactly how you feel. I was a female in a mostly male job (long haul trucker). I had trouble getting waited on at truck stops. The receivers treated me like dirt. My dispatcher would give me problems talking down to me. I just smiled and tried to do my job. I agree you can get help here. Ask questions and get involved in some of the swaps. The round robin I'm in has certainly stretched my skills. We are here and happy to help.:)

eaglebeak1960

thank you it was not just here in indy... I lived in new england until winter of 09.. had same problem there.

Mostly people in indy are REAL friendly. not like it in new england it was dog eat dog there