How would you have responded?
02-21-2011, 09:47 AM
#101
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Originally Posted by shequilts
A close friend of mine designed and copyrighted a beautiful 12 Days of Christmas BOM. I participated and gladly paid the monthly fee. Like so many exceptional BOMs, it wasn't cheap!
Tonight, a mutual acquaintance of both the designer and me, called to ask if I had made the BOM. I responded that I had. She immediately said, "Oh goody, I'll have to get a copy. It's too expensive to buy."
I was floored! I said, "You know it's copyrighted." She did not back up one inch. She proceeded to try to make a date to come by and get the pattern. I literally made up every excuse in the world why not this week. I have no intention of giving it to her, but don't want a confrontation. I just keep hoping she'll forget about it if I make it inconvenient for her.
I'm so annoyed about this. I know what I'm going to do and I'll end up having to end this relationship.
What would you have done?
Tonight, a mutual acquaintance of both the designer and me, called to ask if I had made the BOM. I responded that I had. She immediately said, "Oh goody, I'll have to get a copy. It's too expensive to buy."
I was floored! I said, "You know it's copyrighted." She did not back up one inch. She proceeded to try to make a date to come by and get the pattern. I literally made up every excuse in the world why not this week. I have no intention of giving it to her, but don't want a confrontation. I just keep hoping she'll forget about it if I make it inconvenient for her.
I'm so annoyed about this. I know what I'm going to do and I'll end up having to end this relationship.
What would you have done?
02-21-2011, 09:49 AM
#102
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Originally Posted by ptquilts
"you mean it's too expensive for YOU to buy, but it's not too expensive for ME to buy?"
Since when it is OK for someone else to dip into your wallet to get THEIR goodies? Tell her "H!LL NO!"
And BTW, some people don't understand anything less than a confrontation.
Since when it is OK for someone else to dip into your wallet to get THEIR goodies? Tell her "H!LL NO!"
And BTW, some people don't understand anything less than a confrontation.
02-21-2011, 10:40 AM
#105
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Location: Indiana
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Originally Posted by shequilts
A close friend of mine designed and copyrighted a beautiful 12 Days of Christmas BOM. I participated and gladly paid the monthly fee. Like so many exceptional BOMs, it wasn't cheap!
Tonight, a mutual acquaintance of both the designer and me, called to ask if I had made the BOM. I responded that I had. She immediately said, "Oh goody, I'll have to get a copy. It's too expensive to buy."
I was floored! I said, "You know it's copyrighted." She did not back up one inch. She proceeded to try to make a date to come by and get the pattern. I literally made up every excuse in the world why not this week. I have no intention of giving it to her, but don't want a confrontation. I just keep hoping she'll forget about it if I make it inconvenient for her.
I'm so annoyed about this. I know what I'm going to do and I'll end up having to end this relationship.
What would you have done?
Tonight, a mutual acquaintance of both the designer and me, called to ask if I had made the BOM. I responded that I had. She immediately said, "Oh goody, I'll have to get a copy. It's too expensive to buy."
I was floored! I said, "You know it's copyrighted." She did not back up one inch. She proceeded to try to make a date to come by and get the pattern. I literally made up every excuse in the world why not this week. I have no intention of giving it to her, but don't want a confrontation. I just keep hoping she'll forget about it if I make it inconvenient for her.
I'm so annoyed about this. I know what I'm going to do and I'll end up having to end this relationship.
What would you have done?
02-21-2011, 11:46 AM
#107
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Location: USA
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I find it hard myself to say 'no' sometimes, tell her you can't find it or when you cleaned up your sewing room it must have gotten thrown out with the trash. I know that is lying but sometimes you have to, so hide the pattern somewhere incase she shows up at your place. You think she would have taken the direct hint.
02-21-2011, 11:56 AM
#108
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You only delayed the inevitable by making excuses as to why "today" wasn't a good time. That also leads her to believe you are open to sharing it, 'at a more convenient time.' You need to tell her you can't share it for two reasons: 1)It's copyrighted, and 2)You paid for it. She will have to buy it if she really wants it.
Many people like that would never end up making the quilt anyway, they just want to hoard up whatever patterns they think they can get for free.
Many people like that would never end up making the quilt anyway, they just want to hoard up whatever patterns they think they can get for free.
02-21-2011, 11:59 AM
#109
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By the way, copyright of a written pattern is automatic. You don't have to go register anything... it just belongs to the person who first printed it. So everything is copyrighted, and can't be copied unless the author gives permission. Most patterns have the allowable usage spelled out at the end of the pattern (the fine print), at the discretion of the author.
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