Deb G

ditto!!

Rann

It's not much of a friendship for her to try to take advantage of you like that.

City

Hello She Quilts - yes, it is a like what we called "telegraph" or "telephone a woman". Your original post did not always show up and I'm sure there were those who were just answering without having seen it all.
Please don't take it personal - it was intersting to see the many replies. You brought a for-real problem out into the quilty world, and and most of us said we would do the right thing. However, if it were a friend and not just an acqauintance, I think we would be a little more flexible because we share other things and we kind of know the financial situation of our close friends.
It's really not our busineness what you do - but the question as thrown out was a good one.

quiltmaker

[quote=sewbizgirl]You only delayed the inevitable by making excuses as to why "today" wasn't a good time. That also leads her to believe you are open to sharing it, 'at a more convenient time.'

This is what I felt also and just didn't put all the right words in my response to you. From the getgo you knew you wouldn't share the pattern with her because of copyright law and yet instead of standing your ground you allowed the situation to go on till a later date when you could have just nicely but firmly ended it....I don't like confrontation either but I'm one of those older persons that have learned not to drag things on and on because I don't have time (my time is valuable also) for that kind of nonsense or whatever adjective you choose to use in this case.
Life is just to short....

City

I think this is done now, suggesting we stop with replies.
I'm out. Later on ..

Jacqueline m l

I like this responce. That should make her take notice. She is not getting the pattern fron you.

Quilt Mom

My DD heard the topic and said, "Artists work HARD!" Her artwork is not free, and people don't seem to understand the effort is takes to create. She stands in agreement with Alexa. Use it as a teaching moment. If that does not work, I guess the 'just say no' argument stands.

So, how did the conversation go?

barbb baumgardner

Aren't there enough places to get patterns for FREE? Sorry, it is not ethical to pass on copyrighted stuff.

shequilts

Well, she dropped by. I was anxious to see if, or when, she even brought up the subject. If she did, there was going to be a short answer.
The first thing out of her mouth was, "can I see your patterns?" We headed off to my studio and she began looking through my books and fabrics. She then said, "I've always wanted to learn how to applique."
Opportunity!!!! I directed her to the file where I store my BOMs.. I said, "there are lots of quilts made from the patterns in these books, but not so many of these... (BOMs.) They're expensive, so they're relatively limited.
I'll teach you to applique and to pick your fabrics, but you must purchase your own pattern. They're copyright protected, so you'll need your own. Besides, it will take a good while to make the quilt. You'll refer to it often."
She had the pattern in question, in her hand, as she looked up at me. It looked as if a light had just turned on in her head.
She paused for a second and then said, "That's a good deal, I'll take it."
I didn't embarass her or challenge her integrity, she got the message and will soon own her very own copy. She left happily believing she would soon be part of a select group.

I feel much better now that this is over. The relationship is saved, both friends are whole.

Thanks to everyone for the interesting comments. This was fun!

Kimkankwilt

make a copy for her, but leave something important out. Kinda like sharing recipes....leave out one of the "ingredients".