How would you have responded?
02-20-2011, 06:35 PM
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Originally Posted by ptquilts
"you mean it's too expensive for YOU to buy, but it's not too expensive for ME to buy?"
Since when it is OK for someone else to dip into your wallet to get THEIR goodies? Tell her "H!LL NO!"
Since when it is OK for someone else to dip into your wallet to get THEIR goodies? Tell her "H!LL NO!"
02-20-2011, 06:35 PM
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Wouldn't it have saved a lot of time and engery if you had just told her right out that you weren't going to give it to her? Not telling her is just going to drag the whole thing out and stress you out that much more. I would have said I am sorry, I had to pay for it, so I guess it would be unethical of me to just give it to you. Unless of course, she is a really good friend and cannot affort to pay, then just go ahead and give it to her. Can you tell you are not the only wishy washy person on this planet? LOL
02-20-2011, 06:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Cyn
Just say you don't have it anymore. I'd try to save the relationship by saying I lost the pattern but will let her know when it shows up. I guess I lie :(
02-20-2011, 06:46 PM
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If she knows the designer - how about telling her that you don't feel comfortable "giving" away copyrighted material and suggest that she should call the designer directly for a free copy.
OR, tell her you'll tell the designer that she's looking for a copy of the pattern and that you'll have the designer contact her.
This way you're helpful and at the same time not giving her what she wants.
OR, tell her you'll tell the designer that she's looking for a copy of the pattern and that you'll have the designer contact her.
This way you're helpful and at the same time not giving her what she wants.
02-20-2011, 06:53 PM
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It may be a bit harsh but if all else fails, tell her "I value your friendship and won't make any more excuses, but if you want a copy you will have to pay for it like I did. I respected the copyright, and expect you to as well. If you plan to get this as a freebe, please stop planning. I won't assist one friend to take from another." A mutual aquaintance can become a friend when they respect each others values. Otherwise she remains a mutual aquaintance.
02-20-2011, 06:58 PM
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You sound like a nice person and I feel badly for you that your friend is making you feel uncomfortable and pressing the issue. Friends shouldn't do that to other friends, plain and simple:< It's sad that a friendship may be lost for less than $100.
02-20-2011, 07:06 PM
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Tell her it was lost in a fire!!
Seriously, I am all for the free stuff but you have to break down and buy what you want sometimes. If the lady who designed it wants to give it to her then great but tell her to kiss your #%^ and leave you the heck alone!!
Billy
Seriously, I am all for the free stuff but you have to break down and buy what you want sometimes. If the lady who designed it wants to give it to her then great but tell her to kiss your #%^ and leave you the heck alone!!
Billy
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