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    Old 03-21-2011, 04:56 PM
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    If she is a quilter, than why didn't she make it herself ?
    She should know how much time & material was in it.
    I would tell her you don't have the time to make ones for 2 grandsons. Why can't she do them ?
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    Old 03-21-2011, 04:56 PM
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    she's a quilter and gave you $20!!!!

    OMG

    never do anything for her again.

    if it were me, the friendship would end over this. how insulting, she knows how much things costs and how much time it takes.

    if all she could afford was $20 she shouldn't have asked you to make a quilt.
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    Old 03-21-2011, 04:58 PM
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    People have no glue what it takes to make a quilt...when they go shopping at the stores they are so cheap...and yes cheaper quality but unless you are a quilter/sewer...they do not get it. Do not pay for the fabric...why don't you offer to teach her instead of making it for her. oopss I missed that she is a quilter...tell her to make one it would mean more to her grandchildren.
    Originally Posted by Oistin
    A friend of mine who is a quilter asked me to make a baby quilt for a friend of hers who was expecting a boy. She said that she would pay me and asked me for a price . I stupidly said what she could afford... Guess how much she gave me..$20 yes you read it right $20!! It was a sportstheme quilt and it had the baby's name embroidered and date of birth and even the back was sport theme. I felt insulted!!I wished I had given it to her for nothing.
    Wait there's more! She said her 2 grand sons saw the quilt and wanted one made? What do I do? I agreed before I had seen how much she had given me in a check. Help. Am I a sucker or a fool? I feel like I have been taken in advantage of.
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    Old 03-21-2011, 05:00 PM
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    Tell her that you don't want to make another one, but you will teach her how to make one. If she insists, have a dollar figure in mind that you think is fair for your labor and make sure she buys all of the supplies on top of that.
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    Old 03-21-2011, 05:03 PM
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    You need to tell her that the first one was a favor but the second and third one will cost more. Your time is valuable and she is ungrateful.
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    Old 03-21-2011, 05:06 PM
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    Originally Posted by Oistin
    A friend of mine who is a quilter asked me to make a baby quilt for a friend of hers who was expecting a boy. She said that she would pay me and asked me for a price . I stupidly said what she could afford... Guess how much she gave me..$20 yes you read it right $20!! It was a sportstheme quilt and it had the baby's name embroidered and date of birth and even the back was sport theme. I felt insulted!!I wished I had given it to her for nothing.
    Wait there's more! She said her 2 grand sons saw the quilt and wanted one made? What do I do? I agreed before I had seen how much she had given me in a check. Help. Am I a sucker or a fool? I feel like I have been taken in advantage of.
    You are neither one of those things..Instead you are a friend who was asked to do something and you did it..Be proud of that and do not let the hurt feelings get in the way of that feeling..She should be ashamed of herself for giving such an amount..and as far as the other quilts go..Tell her the truth, that you can not afford the money nor the time it would go into making them..But, if she wanted to, she could buy the material needed and that you charge ( ??) so much per quilt..
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    Old 03-21-2011, 05:07 PM
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    tell her you did the first one for that out of the goodness of your heart for her friendship or what ever. can't do it again because it's expensive!!
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    Old 03-21-2011, 05:13 PM
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    Originally Posted by kso
    Tell her that you don't want to make another one, but you will teach her how to make one. If she insists, have a dollar figure in mind that you think is fair for your labor and make sure she buys all of the supplies on top of that.
    This sounds good to me as well!! Though the labor would be x3 what the fabric and materials cost. On a good day. :roll:
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    Old 03-21-2011, 05:18 PM
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    Well , I am inclined to think that since she is aware of the cost of materials to be used in making a quilt and your time in making it special, she took advantage of you. She should of said how much she was able to pay before the project started and that would of given you the option to say... yes or to have just presented as a gift!

    Her asking for additional quilts made the same, for the same, is out of the question. You should just tell her you cannot do it for the same price and give her a figure of what you would charge for the others....
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    Old 03-21-2011, 05:18 PM
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    You are neither a sucker or a fool. I can't believe that she's a quilter herself and she only gave you $20! That is outrageous! To get out of the other 2 quilts she asked you to do, I would just tell her that you are so sorry but you had a couple of other projects that you had already agreed to do and you don't feel right not being able to put your time and attention in to those projects. You wouldn't be telling a fib because every quilter has at least 5 or 50 other projects they have promised themselves to do when the have the time.

    So sorry this happened to you.
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