Was I a Sucker or a fool?
03-21-2011, 07:14 PM
#31
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Originally Posted by cjk
Tell her to go buy the material. When she sees the price of fabric she will think twice about giving you $20. She should see the money and time that goes into a quilt. I tell my family and friends "don't even ask unless you're willing to pay for the fabric and my time".
Be honest and explain that a quilt is, indeed, an endeavor of love .... but also one of expense.
03-21-2011, 08:19 PM
#32
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....and she couldn't make one herself for the baby, why? If she is a quilter she is definitely aware of the price of fabric and what goes into making a quilt. IMHO she really did take advantage of you because of her knowledge as a quilter. Tell her to purchase the materials for her grandsons quilts and tell her how much you will charge for your labor. I'll bet she will end up making them herself.
03-21-2011, 08:42 PM
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I think she took advantage of your friendship with you being more of a friend than her. She totally gets its, if she is a quilter! If you want to make the children "$20 quilts and don't mind all the effort, time and energy that it requires, then follow you heart. I'm sure your "friend" will be happy...
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03-21-2011, 08:43 PM
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If your questioning if you should make them or not, then you shouldn't do it..
03-21-2011, 08:45 PM
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Originally Posted by LAB55
If she is a quilter, than why didn't she make it herself ?
She should know how much time & material was in it.
I would tell her you don't have the time to make ones for 2 grandsons. Why can't she do them ?
She should know how much time & material was in it.
I would tell her you don't have the time to make ones for 2 grandsons. Why can't she do them ?
03-21-2011, 09:04 PM
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You say she is a quilter so she should really know better, but be that as it may, even though you have already said yes, you can always add a "footnote".
Tell you you will be happy to make 2 more quilts for her for $20 each IF she supplies the fabric and the batting. Be sure and tell her how much fabric and batting you will need to complete the project.
No crime in that! She may rethink it and decide to do them herself. Or she may agree and at least you won't be out any $$, just your time.
Tell you you will be happy to make 2 more quilts for her for $20 each IF she supplies the fabric and the batting. Be sure and tell her how much fabric and batting you will need to complete the project.
No crime in that! She may rethink it and decide to do them herself. Or she may agree and at least you won't be out any $$, just your time.
03-21-2011, 09:56 PM
#37
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Originally Posted by Hope2quilt
You need to tell her that the first one was a favor but the second and third one will cost more. Your time is valuable and she is ungrateful.
She is a Quilter she knows better. I would say sorry but NO. She will know why. You are not a fool she took you for granted and misused your friendship.
03-21-2011, 10:12 PM
#38
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You know what? You can change your mind about the two additional quilts. I know I would! Let her make them herself.
03-21-2011, 10:23 PM
#39
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Say the quilts cost way to much, you can't afford it right now. Or say you just don't have the time or the money for fabric. We all live and learn. :)
03-21-2011, 10:38 PM
#40
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I used to bake and decorate wedding cakes when I was younger and in better shape. Close friends and family would supply the things I needed and I would donate my time and effort as a wedding gift. When a person I wasn't close to would ask me to make one for them I used to tell them. "I only make them for Love, they are too much work to do for money." I think making a quilt is the same sort of thing. The quilt lasts longer of course.
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