hoofmaiden

The TV must move out of your space. I agree that he has turned your sewing room into a man cave. Be sure that you try to communicate with him in a loving way about what your needs and expectations are and how you've interprtted letting your sewing room become his TV room and the long lapse of 10 years.

Hugs! Hope you get a sewing room and an improved relationship with the DH.

justflyingin

I went back and read most of the posts and I suppose this is what I was thinking as well.

IBQLTN

Absolutely it is the right thing to pray for yourself. Also (and don't hate me for saying this ladies) perhaps you need to pray for DH too, with sincerity for him to be blessed (instead of how I used to pray for my DH to be changed into what I wanted him to be). It seems your DH's not really showing himself much respect right now, either.

Hang in there ... the folks on this board have given some pretty good ideas about how to get your room finished.

desertrose

I can so relate to have projects that sat unfinished when it came to thinks that were important to me. The fourth house sat unfinished until it was time to put the house on the market. It was good enough for me to live with unfinished but not for someone to put up with. The next house when he did this again to me I called the most expensive carpenter in our area for a quote and when my husband returned home from a business trip I told him that on Tuesday I was having this room finished but that expensive carpenter. After he almost swallowed his fork and had regained his ability to speak, he asked how much it was going to cost. I calmy told him the amount and he replied, "I'll finish it this weekend I promise." He did and I never had to put up with an unfinished project again until he died.

It's just a suggestion but it might work for you too. Their ego can't take the news getting around that their wife really got him where it hurts, his wallet. It must be a thing about male pride having the most skilled carpenter, in the area, finishing his uncompleted projects. hehehehe

Anyone wishing to try this tactic is free to borrow my solution. It really worked for me.

Greenheron

Empty spaces attract junk like tv screens attract dust. Junk paralyzes progress. Take a look at the junk and if it really IS just stuff taking up space---get rid of it. If it's yours and you're not using it---get rid of it. If it's his, move it out.

Once the junk is gone taking positive action will be easier. A man, a chair and a flat-screen don't take up much space so work around 'em. Give him a headset so he can hear the sports and you don't have to.

The passive/aggressive advice is entertaining and funny but not conducive to good relationships. Proverbs 31: 10-12

Quiltlady330

I agree with those who said hire someone to finish it. I'd tell him first and then just do it if he balks. My guess is he'll get to moving if he sees you mean business about paying somebody else to do it. :) Sounds like it will be a wonderful studio for you. Great size.

IBQLTN

I love the junk vs TV analogy, I'll have to remember that one. And I agree with Proverbs 31:10-12. I'd like to hope this Board saves more relationships than it breaks up.

As for me and my house, my DH is very attached to anything that was his grandmother's or his mother's so we have multi-generational junk! (Of course I do have a very crowded sewing room myself so....) I should have know he was a pack rat when we got married. He still had every single single note we had ever passed to each other in high school! (I threw mine away so as to avoid any evidence before I got home from school.)

And I try to remember, when I point the finger at someone else there are four more pointed back at me.

EllijaysUFOqueen

You are just as important to God as everyone you pray for so there is every reason to pray for yourself. And 10 years is way too long. From someone that has been there (17 years house unfinished and falling apart), it is time to take the bull by the horn and get this finished!!!!! That is not disrespectful to him - it should humiliate him, at the least humble him. Good luck!! YOU will be in my prayers.
p.s. Now in new home and I refuse to let anything sit.

momto5

Exactly what she said! It's your turn now and that flat screen TV has to go!

auniqueview

HOWEVER....if part of it is a mancave, NO TAX DEDUCTION, so move on over honey....take that big tv and comfy chair, and hie yourself on out to the livingroom. He wants to visit, he can come in with a nice little snack for her.

And....I would think pink, at least for a little while. Pink seems to drive men off, lol. Put up some nice pink curtains by the tv, pink pillows on the chair, pink, pink, pink.