one of those days.
#61
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I was making a sampler quilt for my future daughter-in-law but I got a feeling it was not just right. So I took her to the quilt store where there was a sample of what I was making.
I showed her several quilts and she picked out a completely different one than what I was making. I then asked her what she thought about the sampler and she said that she did not like it.
I know if I had given it to her she would have been very happy and accepted it with grace. But when I put all that work into something I want the receiver to be VERY happy. So I put that quilt into what I call time out. Several months I took her back to the quilt store and we picked out the fabric together.
Some day I will finish the other quilt and give it to someone else.
Wait till the baby turns one and make a special quilt to it then.
I showed her several quilts and she picked out a completely different one than what I was making. I then asked her what she thought about the sampler and she said that she did not like it.
I know if I had given it to her she would have been very happy and accepted it with grace. But when I put all that work into something I want the receiver to be VERY happy. So I put that quilt into what I call time out. Several months I took her back to the quilt store and we picked out the fabric together.
Some day I will finish the other quilt and give it to someone else.
Wait till the baby turns one and make a special quilt to it then.
#62
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Northern Michigan
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i always ask, "if i ever getting around to making you a quilt what colors/theme do you think you'd like?"
when i finished my daughter's wedding quilt my oldest son asked if he was getting one next...i said of course. i had been collecting patterns and fabrics for months for his, knew exactly what i planned to do...he blew me right out of the water...when he said, "i would like a star quilt" my response...really? i thought you would want wizards/dragons...nope, i want stars...i never try to second guess anymore. i have given quilts that i did not ask ahead of time and have only had one person in 34 years say, "it's nice but i sure wish it was..." don't take it personal, she is trying to avoid hurting you, not liking what you did. i would rather they offer the info than spend the time making and giving to have it not well received.
and someone else will find the 'granny color' one exactly what they love!
when i finished my daughter's wedding quilt my oldest son asked if he was getting one next...i said of course. i had been collecting patterns and fabrics for months for his, knew exactly what i planned to do...he blew me right out of the water...when he said, "i would like a star quilt" my response...really? i thought you would want wizards/dragons...nope, i want stars...i never try to second guess anymore. i have given quilts that i did not ask ahead of time and have only had one person in 34 years say, "it's nice but i sure wish it was..." don't take it personal, she is trying to avoid hurting you, not liking what you did. i would rather they offer the info than spend the time making and giving to have it not well received.
and someone else will find the 'granny color' one exactly what they love!
#64
I know how you feel. I am relatively new to quilting & after my first quilt (a baby quilt I made for my niece's little girl) I was taking a class & the pattern was a large sized sampler wall hanging. I carefully and painstakingly picked out my mom's favorite colors & had it all sandwiched ready to quilt & my mom saw it. I was excited and spilled the beans that it was for her. She looked at me & said, "Oh, I don't have anywhere to hang that, but it's very pretty." Unfortunately, it hurt & I put it away & never finished it. Just recently I found it & decided to quilt it for me. Sometimes I wish people would think before they speak. Oh, well....gotta love MOM.
#65
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Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Tavistock, Ontario, Canada
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If it makes you feel better - I was making a sampler quilt for my DD & her hubby for a wedding gift - had been making it over several years. Comes time for actually planning the wedding, every suggestion I made was "too country" so I looked at the quilt blocks and decided to make something less "countrified".
That was July '09 - fast forward to Christmas '09 when I made 5 wallhanging for the 3 couple to pick from. DD & her DH choose the most country one of the bunch which was the made from the sampler quilt blocks!
That was July '09 - fast forward to Christmas '09 when I made 5 wallhanging for the 3 couple to pick from. DD & her DH choose the most country one of the bunch which was the made from the sampler quilt blocks!
Wedding Quilt
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Christmas Wallhanging
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#66
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: New York State, but I will always be Canadian!
Posts: 933
Ouch. However, at least now you know that the quilt that you will make she will love. You should tell her the story and she'll get a laugh after the fact! Hope someone still benefits from the quilt you are working on now!!
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#67
Originally Posted by dsb38327
I am sorry that happened. Granddaughters are hard. Just when you think you know them, what they like and what is on their mind they change the rules. I think surprise is not going to be an option. Maybe she would enjoy going with you to choose the pattern and fabric?
#68
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Originally Posted by pstoner
Originally Posted by dsb38327
I am sorry that happened. Granddaughters are hard. Just when you think you know them, what they like and what is on their mind they change the rules. I think surprise is not going to be an option. Maybe she would enjoy going with you to choose the pattern and fabric?
#69
Originally Posted by bearisgray
Originally Posted by pstoner
Originally Posted by dsb38327
I am sorry that happened. Granddaughters are hard. Just when you think you know them, what they like and what is on their mind they change the rules. I think surprise is not going to be an option. Maybe she would enjoy going with you to choose the pattern and fabric?
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