Sorry for her but at her loss another ones treasure.Blessings,vickie :-D

I'd give it back to her in the same condition she gave it to me, which means I'd remove every stitch of quilting I put into it.

It might be petty, but I'm not giving away 9 hours of work for nothing, even if it takes another 9 hours to undo it. And I'm not giving her the batting and backing, either.

If she made the top, she knows exactly how much it costs for the batting and backing and how much time is involved in quilting it.

I dont think people realize what all goes into making a blanket or quilt.It can be costly we all know that but some people are ignorant and think it should be free or as you say...dont pay.Just the time alone is costly to a point.You leave all behind to make someone happy and then get treated the way you do?She would never ask again for a quilt.Just my 2 cents....blessings,vickie
Dont fret over it,have a great day and smile anyways. :D

I made and donated a quilt for the annual Christmas auction one year. Can't remember the size, but it almost covered the top of a full size bed. Anyway, after the auction a lady called and told me how beautiful the quit was and it brought $35 dollars. She thought that was wonderful. Heck I paid more that, just for the fabric and batting. I didn't donate one the next year. I would have been better off just to donate the $35.00.

I must admit, I am confused:
The "friend" asked you to finish a quilt and she would pay for it. Then when you quoted her a price, she flipped and basically pulled out of HER obligation to pay. Yet, you say that you are "stuck with a UFO" which suggests that you have the unfinished quilt in your possession. What did I miss that could possibly give you a sense of disconcern.

She pulled out of her obligation to pay, so you should not feel one moment of concern when you pull out of your agreement. You were going to finish it for a price. No money no work. I'd give the UFO back. Simple as that. If she's a friend she'll get it. If not, no great loss either way.

I to have been confronted with 'big box store price comparison'.

Many yrs ago, I was sharing a over sized queen quilt that I has just finished. Some of my bowling friends did the ohhh and ahhhs, then one lady came up asked "oh, do you make quilts for others and what would you charge?". I explain, the size, pattern, quilting and blah, blah, can make a difference. She then asked, "Well, for example, if you would sell this quilt, what would you charge?". I do some quick rough math, and reply "$800 - $1,000" Her mouth dropped open, but then she replies "Well, see if I ever use you to make me a quilt!" Some people DON"T get it.

We all want a good deal. But the old saying "you get what you pay for".

I think I got misplaced at the part where you quoted a price and she seemed surprised at the $ you gave her.

Why did she bring the quilt to you then, if that amount seemed to bother her so much?

And as far as that goes, why did you agree to do something with it if she seemed unhappy with the $ quoted.

And when did ownership of this pass to you from her?


Two lessons I have learned:

1) Try to see what might be involved in a project before committing to it - and estimate high. I've learned not to agree to anything "sight unseen" (Exceptions - accepting my children when they were born)

2) Even if a friend says "Will you do a favor for me - - - -" - my usual response is "It depends - - - - need to know what it is before I commit to anything"

I agree, this is what I would do too!

I feel you have to keep friendship out of business. Prevents hard feelings and lost friendships afterwards. When I used to do textile restoration as a career all "Jobs" were written up in my order book. A written quotation was provided with the cost of materials. Materials were paid up front. For long-term jobs, then progress payments were made for labour. In my Terms and Conditions, all jobs had to be paid in full before I released their item. If not, it was MINE. Luckily, this never happened. Afterwards, I gave them a receipt (never mess with the Inland Revenue!). Also, I was not responsible for anything that came framed. In addition, I reserved the right to take photographs of my work and use them for my portfolio and for teaching purposes.