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love this topic,
DH doesn't say much as long as we can afford it. I have reminded him I use my "stash" more than his entire scuba outfit ever gets used. |
Since the long arm cost the same as the Gold Wing and inheritance money bought the long arm, until he rents out the motorcycle, no quilting for dollars.
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Originally Posted by Grammy o'5
They can! and DON'T feel guilty about it! Life is short, enjoy your LA, earn money with it when you can - but don't stress over it! :thumbup:
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I'm right there with you girl!!!! I've got my eye on a Juki TL 98 Q with a Gracie II frame that's on Craigslist. (Just waiting for a certain check to come in & hoping it doesn't sell.) It's not a long arm by any means, but I was hoping that it will be the first step towards one and that I can learn on it. My husband seems to look at everything that I make & think that I can sell it. What's up with that? I guess I should take it as a compliment. What type of set up did you get?
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Originally Posted by Selena
Yes, I did try to justify it. That's my point, why did I feel the need to? He said I could have it if I wanted it. I bought it used and paid cash. It didn't put us in a bind until he lost his job 2 weeks later which no one could have foreseen. I have wanted to quilt for over 30 years and was busy.... He can't help that he doesn't get it.
So many of us know people who have been unemployed for months if not years. I have a couple friends in their late 50's who have decided to call it early retirement because they just can't find a job. So I find it hard to justify spending big chunks of money on something only I will enjoy. My goal in life is to get my dh interested in quilting/sewing. I bet he'd be good, he has an eye for color and design. |
Originally Posted by Debbie B
I'm right there with you girl!!!! I've got my eye on a Juki TL 98 Q with a Gracie II frame that's on Craigslist. (Just waiting for a certain check to come in & hoping it doesn't sell.) It's not a long arm by any means, but I was hoping that it will be the first step towards one and that I can learn on it. My husband seems to look at everything that I make & think that I can sell it. What's up with that? I guess I should take it as a compliment. What type of set up did you get?
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I did tell DH that if he wants my quilting to be the family business then he needs to learn to sew.
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Susan Margaret's got the right idea.
Hubby should hire out his boat so it can pay for itself too :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: |
Originally Posted by Selena
I did tell DH that if he wants my quilting to be the family business then he needs to learn to sew.
:thumbup: :lol: :thumbup: Love it! Great response. Keep telling yourself that you are worth it, you deserve your long arm, don't try to justify it to yourself or anyone else. "This if for me, I deserve it, it's paid for, didn't go into debt, there's still money in the bank" - over and over again until you really believe it. {{{{{{{{Big hug}}}}} |
We are wives they are just bigger BOYS with bigger toys.
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I am not really sure why this is..but always!!! It makes no sense to me...but of course I am only a woman, who am I to question? :?
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Originally Posted by charity-crafter
Originally Posted by Selena
Yes, I did try to justify it. That's my point, why did I feel the need to? He said I could have it if I wanted it. I bought it used and paid cash. It didn't put us in a bind until he lost his job 2 weeks later which no one could have foreseen. I have wanted to quilt for over 30 years and was busy.... He can't help that he doesn't get it.
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Originally Posted by jbud2
A M E N !! :thumbup:
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I sold my car to buy my LA. I am a novice quilter and stumbled on the opportunity to buy a LA for 1/2 price. I knew that hand quilting was not in my future. My hubby is very supportive, as he should be. He has every tool imaginable, which is nice to have "the right tool" for whatever project you are working on. So I don't feel guilty about buying fabric for my quilting projects.
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Sorry but I am your husband, I can not justify the cost....to myself. I will have to use my DSM and make it work for me so far I am happy with it!
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One year my husband bought me a boat and motor for mother's day (I DO NOT fish.) I bought him a sewing machine for father's day. He didn't like it.
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But look at all the fabric you can buy! I would only take on a job when you want to, schedule your time so you still have time to do your thing. Take care.
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My late DH and I agreed early in our marriage that when buying a recording as a gift we would each choose something the donor wanted and as long as we both did that we were both happy. In later more prosperous years it was my quilting stuff and his hunting stuff along with the travel to pheasant territory. I got to quilt all day all I wanted when he and the dog were off in South Dakota and I was here in North Carolina. It was then that I realized that the safe full of shot guns and my sewing room full of quilt stuff were in balance. It was something we laughed about. He did observe, however, that he saw more fabric going into that room than coming out. Too true.
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Or the saw that cuts one way, and another saw that cuts another way, and a sander that goes 'around' and a sander that goes 'back and forth' all to make a piece of moulding once every few years! I dareway I use my machine WAAAAYYYY more than that. I use my machine WAY more than the car, come to think of it!
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Originally Posted by Annette Searcy
One year my husband bought me a boat and motor for mother's day (I DO NOT fish.) I bought him a sewing machine for father's day. He didn't like it.
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The game of the sexes. We were brought up with those standards and it's really hard to change. BUT.....it can be done. Start by telling ;yourself that you don't have to justify. My hubby's hobby is golf and believe me, that can get very pricey. ("Did I just hear you say you paid $400 for that one club?? Well, if it makes you happy, then I'm happy".) Or, you could close the whole conversation down by telling him you are enjoying your long-Corvette.
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Originally Posted by Scissor Queen
My hubby said something once about burning all the books I have and don't need etc. I told him we'd start the fire with those baseball cards he has. He's never said another word.
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Originally Posted by Annette Searcy
One year my husband bought me a boat and motor for mother's day (I DO NOT fish.) I bought him a sewing machine for father's day. He didn't like it.
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Aren't we glad Father's Day comes after Mother's Day.
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At least you have a long arm!! Put your big girl panties on and go sew with a smile on your face!
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Originally Posted by PaperPrincess
I got my long arm by looking at the corvette in the garage. We can't drive it often because: it's raining. It's going to rain. it might rain. it rained last week etc.
I told him that even if I quilted 5 quilts a year it would get used more that that car, and I wouldn't be paying for collision insurance to boot! |
Originally Posted by Selena
Don't get me wrong, I love my husband for insisting I get my LA because I wanted it. I have been working hard at learning how to use it. He thought I should be able to just go for it and make money. He doesn't have a clue what's involved. I love it and want to do this for money but not only that. I really enjoy doing the quilting. I feel like I have to fight for my time to quilt which doesn't help. When he wanted a boat, we bought a boat. It sits there 99% of the time. It certainly hasn't helped catch enough fish to justify the price. Also the $600 cross bow that he had to have for Christmas last year that is still decorating the corner of my living room-not even fired. He really doesn't deny me what I want if we can do it, not that I ask very often but why do I have to justify it? I got the camera I have wanted for over 30 years because I am the photographer for my EHC club. Why can't wives just have expensive toys?
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My daughter once bought herself a pair of diamond earrings. When she held her ear out to show people, she said, "See my new tractor!?"
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Originally Posted by sueisallaboutquilts
Tell him he needs to give people paid boat rides while you're quilting for hire LOL
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HaHa.... boat rides.... baseball cards. Laughing. :)
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I knew women always tried to sneak fabric into the house but this is funny when I see a man doing it. So guess it works both ways.
Originally Posted by Dexx
For me its the opposite. My wife questions why I buy fabric. So I've been trying to let her pick things out with me online.
But once in a while something catches my eye, and I have to sneak a purchase in. In fact, today I'm "working from home" so I can get the mail with the new fabric before she sees it. |
Originally Posted by Annette Searcy
One year my husband bought me a boat and motor for mother's day (I DO NOT fish.) I bought him a sewing machine for father's day. He didn't like it.
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Oh boy, you guys have hit a nerve with me! I have been wanting a "Tin Lizzy" for years but there's always a reason why I can't get one. My husband's reasoning is that, we don't have the room! Well, our house has 6 bedrooms and all but one of our children are out of the house. He has a sailboat, a yacht club membership plus all of the other expenses involved with the upkeep of the boat. Now we're going to be moving into a smaller house and... you guessed it... now there won't be any room! (But, I can always find room.) Enjoy your long arm! I'll be sending my quilts out to be quilted.
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My husband and I have been married for 50 years. I have waited on him hand and foot. He never has to worry about any thing. I see to it. He has his big fancy HDTV and "CLICKER"! And don't forget the recliner where he lives. I have just one thought.......
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Let's see how much I can spend? to justify an airplane?!!!-J
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Originally Posted by Grammy o'5
They can! and DON'T feel guilty about it! Life is short, enjoy your LA, earn money with it when you can - but don't stress over it! :thumbup:
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I love this thread...my DH is usually silent about my sewing and quilting purchases because he has an expensive hobby too. He builds scale model remote controlled boats...big expensive ones! And then there's the 1950's vintage ski boat he wanted to restore...cost $3000 then some work before he changed his mind and recently sold it for $500!! He dare not say a thing about my stuff!
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Ditto with the complaint about the books bit (but now I have a Nook so he doesn't see paperbacks all over the house. My DH's thing is DVD's and he's on his third pull camping trailer (first 2 were tent trailers and this one is a hard-shell pop up) that he uses maybe 1-2 times a year - except for the last 2 years it hasn't been used. Go figure!
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My 1st husband saw no "rate of return" in my horse that I had wanted all my life. Now 50 years later, divorced, but still friends with he and new wife, I threw it back in his face when asked if the sale of the chicken eggs paid for their feed. "No, I enjoy fresh range free eggs." :) We all laughed.
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Originally Posted by j
Let's see how much I can spend? to justify an airplane?!!!-J
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