quilts from a lost loved one.
#122
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Location: Boston
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Please keep them -- perhaps in a pillowcase where you cannot see them for a while. I have two that I made for beloved aunts and they were returned to me when they died. I now treasure them as it is really all I have from those dear people.
One aunt was in a nursing home and I put her name in large letters all over it as part of the pattern. I used all the names she was called, auntie, Gram, Mrs. ... , etc. I did not want it getting moved around the nursing home. I now cherish the quilt and use it in the guest room.
One aunt was in a nursing home and I put her name in large letters all over it as part of the pattern. I used all the names she was called, auntie, Gram, Mrs. ... , etc. I did not want it getting moved around the nursing home. I now cherish the quilt and use it in the guest room.
#123
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: SW Minnesota
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Originally Posted by Marmie
This isn't really a quilting question.But it does have to do with quilts. I recently lost my mother. I had made several quilts for her. My sister has them right now but would like me to come get them.Has anyone else made special quilts for a loved one and gotten them back when they pass away? I just don't know that I want them. Or maybe it's just too soon. One is a Picture quilt, with pictures of her and family. Another is one of sun bonnet Sues and Sams representing all 8 of her children and a couple in the center for her and my father. The second was used at her viewing. I'm wondeering if I should give them away or wait to see if in time it won't hurt so badly to see them. I don't know if anyone else would actually want them. Any advice or similar stories would be greatly appreciated.
#124
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Corpus Christi, Tx
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Originally Posted by Marmie
This isn't really a quilting question.But it does have to do with quilts. I recently lost my mother. I had made several quilts for her. My sister has them right now but would like me to come get them.Has anyone else made special quilts for a loved one and gotten them back when they pass away? I just don't know that I want them. Or maybe it's just too soon. One is a Picture quilt, with pictures of her and family. Another is one of sun bonnet Sues and Sams representing all 8 of her children and a couple in the center for her and my father. The second was used at her viewing. I'm wondeering if I should give them away or wait to see if in time it won't hurt so badly to see them. I don't know if anyone else would actually want them. Any advice or similar stories would be greatly appreciated.
#125
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Westcliffe, CO
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I think you just need some time. I'm sure in time, as the pain eases a litte, you will look at those quilts and all the love you put into them, and so many wonderful memories of your mom will coming flooding in, and then you will charish those quilts. Be easy on your self and give your self some time.
#126
Originally Posted by Marmie
This isn't really a quilting question.But it does have to do with quilts. I recently lost my mother. I had made several quilts for her. My sister has them right now but would like me to come get them.Has anyone else made special quilts for a loved one and gotten them back when they pass away? I just don't know that I want them. Or maybe it's just too soon. One is a Picture quilt, with pictures of her and family. Another is one of sun bonnet Sues and Sams representing all 8 of her children and a couple in the center for her and my father. The second was used at her viewing. I'm wondeering if I should give them away or wait to see if in time it won't hurt so badly to see them. I don't know if anyone else would actually want them. Any advice or similar stories would be greatly appreciated.
#128
I know that the loss is overwhelming right now but I think this is great that your sister is going to pass them back to you. I've lost several members of my family. I can understand your feelings that you are going through right now.
If I was going through what you are going through right now, I would not make any decisions at this time. I would put the quilts away in a closet and wait a year. Then I would make a decision. I think that you will find that you will have a different outlook about the quilts. You may, at that time, give them away but when you do, you won't have tht overwhelming feeling of loss. I think that seeing the quilts in a year will give you a warm feeling of love that you had made those quilts for your mother and how much she enjoyed them.
If I was going through what you are going through right now, I would not make any decisions at this time. I would put the quilts away in a closet and wait a year. Then I would make a decision. I think that you will find that you will have a different outlook about the quilts. You may, at that time, give them away but when you do, you won't have tht overwhelming feeling of loss. I think that seeing the quilts in a year will give you a warm feeling of love that you had made those quilts for your mother and how much she enjoyed them.
#129
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Join Date: Nov 2009
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I made a 60th Anniversary quilt for my in-laws many years ago. When they passed away it was returned to me. I still enjoy looking at the pictures and of course, the hairdos and the styles of clothing, the little children, now grown, etc. It is a treasure chest of memories. Take them back, I think you'll enjoy them later if not now.
#130
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 24
My brother died in october. I have a blanket that we had gotten him when he was in the hospital. He never used it...I dont have the heart to unwrap it and thought I might give it to good will. My son wants me to keep it. Your quilt was so much more personal. Please tuck it away .. someone, smeday will cherish it! My heart goes out to you.
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