Rude Guild Members/Need Help
05-04-2011, 09:02 AM
#91
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Location: Carlisle, PA
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I recently had the same problem while my DH and I were at our local movie theater. Several young ladies in the row behind us were chatting away during the movie making it difficult to concentrate on the screen. Finally I'd had enough. I looked at my DH and he knew what was coming! I stood up, turned around and addressed the offending ladies with "You know, l paid good money to see AND HEAR this movie. I did not pay my money to listen to your chatter. Kindly put a SOCK IN IT! The movie goers all around me applauded my efforts, the group of chatterboxes got up and walked out, flashing me the bird!! Oh well!
Originally Posted by newquilter10
People do this everywhere and it bugs the puddin out of me.
I go to WW when in Texas and I get so upset as I pay good money to go to hear the leader not the twenty side meetings. I keep saying I am going to say something and wish I had the guts to do so. It is so RUDE to be yakking when they are talking.
Good luck!
I go to WW when in Texas and I get so upset as I pay good money to go to hear the leader not the twenty side meetings. I keep saying I am going to say something and wish I had the guts to do so. It is so RUDE to be yakking when they are talking.
Good luck!
05-04-2011, 09:26 AM
#92
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Snowflake, AZ
Posts: 95
One way to handle it is to have the group set up norms for the group. Explain that as you are new you would like to know what they think a well run meeting should look like. What expectations do they have when you have a guest speaker, etc.
Write the norms on a large poster size paper and leave them posted for a while.
Write what you would like to see happen and ask questions to elicit the responses you want to discuss.
Write the norms on a large poster size paper and leave them posted for a while.
Write what you would like to see happen and ask questions to elicit the responses you want to discuss.
05-04-2011, 09:34 AM
#93
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 142
The more polite members of your guilt will greatly appreciate your reminding the rest what you expect of them when a speaker is visiting. There is no excuse for rudeness. Just try a gentle reminder. If that doesn't work you may have to call them out. It is not fair to the others to let it go on. JUST MY OPINION!
05-04-2011, 09:34 AM
#94
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Location: Adirondacks
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Originally Posted by Jory
Originally Posted by Lena1952
Over the past few years I have noticed a tendency toward rudeness during our meetings. Members talk during a speaker, during the general meeting and not quietly.
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05-04-2011, 09:34 AM
#95
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Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Twin Falls, ID
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These people need to be embarrassed! However we have to remember there are a whole lot of people out there who just have no manners. These are not the type of people who would be embarrassed enough to not come back. If they were this would be a great way to get rid of them. If they can't play well with others, let them go someplace else to play. Please!
Originally Posted by Pamela Artman
I would hate to embarrass someone or make anyone feel uncomfortable. Unlike business meetings, people come to a quilt guild to have fun and they can choose not to come again if they are made to feel uncomfortable or have negative attention called to them. If I went to a guild meeting and the speaker called my name or came to stand next to me if I was talking, I'd probably be so embarrassed I would not come back. At the first meeting, you could talk about the "problem" and ask for suggestions so that all the members feel they are a part of the solution. My aunt is a teacher and when her classroom would get noisy, she would turn out the light and when it got quiet, she'd turn it back on and continue talking. Maybe you could make a game out of it. Pass out numbered slips of paper and if someone is talking others could take their paper from them. At the end of the meeting, draw a number and whoever has the paper with that number on it would win a fat quarter or pattern. Just something to make it a fun reminder not to talk when someone else is talking.
05-04-2011, 09:49 AM
#96
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Join Date: May 2010
Location: SE Nebraska
Posts: 18
While I was president of our guild I used this phrase--occasionally needed to rap the gavel to get attention before announcing it: "As a courtesy to the speaker, please keep your side conversations to a minimum"
05-04-2011, 10:51 AM
#98
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Location: Adelanto, CA
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I think the most difficult part is ... when the rudeness happens while the guest speaker is giving the presentation and speaking. A guest speaker is likely to not bring attention to the offending members.
Maybe that would be the perfect time for the guild president to stroll up and down the aisles putting her finger to her lips to show 'quiet please' and to pause and quietly ask offending members to quit their chatter.
These issues should be addressed at beginning of meetings and put in all guild newsletters. It seems some people are like children and need to be reminded over and over again.
Maybe that would be the perfect time for the guild president to stroll up and down the aisles putting her finger to her lips to show 'quiet please' and to pause and quietly ask offending members to quit their chatter.
These issues should be addressed at beginning of meetings and put in all guild newsletters. It seems some people are like children and need to be reminded over and over again.
05-04-2011, 11:01 AM
#99
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Minnesota
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Originally Posted by bearisgray
Originally Posted by julia58
I believe you have enough suggestions. I just wanted to say good luck in your new position. Anytime you have a bunch of hens in one spot, there is going to be a whole bunch of cackling going on...
05-04-2011, 11:07 AM
#100
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Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Some where in Missouri
Posts: 291
Originally Posted by julia58
I believe you have enough suggestions. I just wanted to say good luck in your new position. Anytime you have a bunch of hens in one spot, there is going to be a whole bunch of cackling going on...
I'm the treasurer of our guild, so I understand where you are coming from on the topic.
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