UPDATE on "Is this Cheating"
02-10-2011, 05:18 PM
#101
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Join Date: May 2010
Location: Northern New Hampshire
Posts: 1,936
Good for you...a time comes when we have to stand up and take the welcome mat off our backs and put it back where it belongs...
Re-read the quote you have on the bottom of your entry and think about them and see how they may apply to your situation with your Mom.
Andie :D
Re-read the quote you have on the bottom of your entry and think about them and see how they may apply to your situation with your Mom.
Andie :D
02-10-2011, 05:41 PM
#102
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Bay Area near San Francisco
Posts: 1,213
Originally Posted by Blue's quilting mama
I am proud of you, even though I hate conflict. Sometimes, you have to stand up for yourself, and it's really hard when it is your mom....
"If you lie down and act like a doormat, don't kvetch if somebody steps all over you."
You didn't and she probably won't again.
02-10-2011, 05:55 PM
#103
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Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Wells Me
Posts: 852
My Mom criticized me for years no matter wat I did or said or made. Made a lot of my clothes. I would show up in something I made and she would say, thats pretty where did you get that. So I learned after many tears and hurt feeling to ignore her needy mouth. I know she loved me she just had to say something. She played us kids off each other to. I caught on early. It took years for my sister to figure it out. I thought she new,I don't know if my brother ever caught on.
02-10-2011, 06:45 PM
#108
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Chili, New York (Rochester)
Posts: 1,147
There is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you did it. It wasn't disrespectful, just firm so don't feel one bit guilty; you did just fine. If your Mom is insulted, that is HER feeling and she will have to deal with it. As long as you weren't disrespectful, I feel you just grew a little bit, right? :) :) :)
02-10-2011, 07:14 PM
#109
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Salem Oregon
Posts: 163
Good Job... It's hard, for sure.
I hate to say that I was up into my 50's before I finally said "NO" to my matriarchal mother. I was expecting the sky to open up and a bolt of lightening to come and strike me dead..... it didn't and everytime I said no to her after that, it became easier. We finally ended up with her respecting my "adulthood", yes, even at 50.....
I hate to say that I was up into my 50's before I finally said "NO" to my matriarchal mother. I was expecting the sky to open up and a bolt of lightening to come and strike me dead..... it didn't and everytime I said no to her after that, it became easier. We finally ended up with her respecting my "adulthood", yes, even at 50.....
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